| Home | Discovery | Further | Divorce | Open | Resources

  << Previous Topic | Next Topic >>OPEN  

Inspirations

May 24 2005 at 10:42 PM

Cory  (Login BlindJustice)
ADRa

Many people have asked me about my positive although sometimes quirky attitude about my oncoming blindness. Where do I get it? I have some older friends who share this disease that have tread the path before me, and I draw my strength from them. Talked to one of them tonight. At the end of the conversation, he said something that really hit home with me...

"Being blind isn't so hot, but you know, it could be worse. I may not be able to see my grandson, but I can hear him laugh. When he climbs into my lap, I can hold him and hug him."

This from a man who had to retire a few years back because of his sight loss, then watched his world go completely dark in the next couple of years. Think about the fear that he felt, the helplessness, then read those words again. I can't wait to see him in July.

Another guy from our group, whom Kat has had the pleasure of meeting, once posted to the list about the day he lost his sight....

"A couple years ago my field was down to no more than five degrees. One morning I went into the bathroom and tried to turn on the light and found it was burned out. Later, when I tried to change the bulb, I found the light was on all the time. I had lost the remaining sight overnight. After an hour of carrying on I suddenly realized that not much had changed. I found the fear of going blind was much worse than the actual fact. I think it’s the fear of the unknown that scares us so much…. We can’t let the fear of the unknown paralyze us into seclusion and missing out on life. Believe me, life doesn’t stop because someone turned off the lights."

He actually, literally, tried to change the bulb. You've gotta smile...

This is what keeps me going. I still have that childish fear of the dark, but you know, with people like this leading the way for me, that fear has been reduced dramatically...

Cory

"Opponents cannot exhaust you." - The Art Of War

 
 Respond to this message   
AuthorReply

(Login jeanniejake)
Member

Re: Inspirations

May 25 2005, 2:35 AM 

>>"We can’t let the fear of the unknown paralyze us into seclusion and missing out on life. Believe me, life doesn’t stop because someone turned off the lights."<<
Cory,
Once again you have managed to say just the right thing to me at just the right moment, and you never even knew did you?
Jean UK

 
 

Cory
(Login BlindJustice)
ADRa

Jean

May 25 2005, 6:34 AM 

Hey, I didn't say those words, I just related them. Blame Wayne, he said it!! LOL

Cory

"Opponents cannot exhaust you." - The Art Of War

 
 
Sandy
(Login sandy6957)

xx

May 25 2005, 7:41 AM 

You are so brave, Cory, even though you're scared. You're facing up to it.
I think that people in general cope with things a lot better once they've happened than they think they might when it hasn't happened. Like, for me, when my baby died. People have said to me 'I coudln't have coped with that' and I'd probably have said that before it happened, but once it's there and you have to deal with it, you just do. My neighbour's son was paralysed in a car accident 15 years ago, he can move his head, that's all. He can't talk. The side of his head is caved in. I chat to him sometimes. He's not brain damaged, in that he knows what's going on. I chat to him, and I get the feeling he knows what I'm on about. I think I couldn't cope being in a shell like that, with my thoughts still thinking but my body unable to do anything. But he copes. He's happy enough. I expect he'd be a darn sight happier if he wasn't where he is, but he just gets on with it. Human spirit? The fight for life? Who knows. But there's millions of people facing all sorts of horrors, just out there doing it.
xxx

 
 
Current Topic - Inspirations  Respond to this message   
  << Previous Topic | Next Topic >>OPEN  
hidden hit counter

| Home | Discovery | Further | Divorce | Open | Suggestions | Members | Policy |