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Just a little update for my friends here at ADR.............Donna and I have gotten back together and things couldn't be better!!!
So much as changed with both of us since she decided to move out.
Now it makes so much sense, she moved out to give me time to get my act together and it was like the SWOOSH of Xena's axe and woke us both up to we had and just how much we loved each other.
The time apart allowed us to take a good look at ourselves and what really mattered to us deep down.
I now see what we needed to do for ourselves to move forward and wrote her a long honest heart to heart letter......and this was after I had asked her to please come back on several occasions previous to this........but I hadn't woken up till the tme of my letter writing.
When I wrote the letter I had at that time gotten back my confidence and had worked thru some of my personal demons and faults.
Her bravery in leaving allowed us both to reach inside and deal with our problems wothout the daily pressure of our relationship at that time.
We have both come along way since the day she moved out........
When I gave her the letter to read....I was so nervous i WAS SHAKING.......after she read the letter she said yes, she would like to move forward and work on us........WOW.......I couldn't believe it.....I had worked thru one of my fears......rejection and took a chance and she responded!
We went out on a couple of dates and then one night............well you know the rest lol
That was Sept 9th when she read the letter and since then things have been so wonderful and loving,it seems all the pain had ben swept away and we were now both free in our hearts and we let our love flow.............we both feel so rejuvenated and healthier now that our love just flows naturally..........and we are so open and honest with each other........I love her now more than ever..........
I have found a great Therapist and he has given me homework to complete before i seehim in two weeks....I am so looking forward to working with my T..........before I had tryed a couple and had given up on therapy......but things look so different and feel so much better now I am looking forward to going.
I know we are going to make it now and for the first time in years I can see into the future and look forward to our challenges and adventures now....... before I couldn't see past more than a day or two at best.

The future holds so much promise and adventure now and we are both looking forward to the rest of our lives together!
I know we love eachother more than ever now and we are both so open and hinest with everything that it all seems so natural now.
Donna spent the night on thursady and our boys were so happy, and they could see us happy......I feel on top of the world right now and nothing else matters but us and our boys.
I want to thank a few of my dear friends who stood by me and helped me work through all this....Tex, Xena, Jo and Dap........thank you for your support and honesty.......you will never know how much you helped me se through the pain and get to the root of my fears and needs......thank you my dear friends.
We have a date tonite and right now I am planning and getting ready for her to come over, its all so exciting!
I know now just how much she worked on everything but there was one thing she couldn't do and that was heal myself........that was something I had to do on my own and I am well on my way!
So if there is true love there is always hope for ones relationship but it takes two to make it work.........I now know she can't make me happy its something I need to do on my own and I am doing it!!
I feel that with our new found skills and our love we can do anything!!
I love her with all my being and have also found out that I love myself too and can look into the mirror and be proud of who I am!
Well I could go on and on here but I just wanted to give all my friends an update on our situation and perhaps give hope to others out there.
Now I am looking forward to the rest of my life and can't wait to see it all unfold.

James

Thank you everybody..........

Wow, what a great post. Good news!

Charlie