Thanks for your input.
The latest affair lasted from May thru October of 2005. When this affair came out in the open she informed there were other affairs prior to this one.
In the latest one they convinced themselves they are in love. The OM is married as well. His wife made the initial discovery. My wife and I were not really getting along for the prior 2 months and I finally demanded to know what gives she finally told me about the affair and how she felt about the OM. A week later she confessed to the other affair as well as one night stand shortly after we got married.(had no idea at all about this one) We are both in individual counseling as well as MC. She has stated many times she wants to try and work things out. I do believe she is sincere but she seems not to be able to control herself as she seems to be the one initiating the contact. She claims she is trying but I do not think she is giving it all she has to.
I am not completely innoccent in this as I too had some affairs of my own. They were purely lustful and nonromantic. I regret all my indiscretions. My spouse does not. I love my wife and want to keep our family together. I just do not know how to keep rebuilding the trust!
You said you may have had an A first in another thread and then you say she had one early on in your marriage so that confuses me a bit as to who had one first.
I just posted to you in your other thread.
I hope you both can get some well needed support to help you make your marriage work. It seems you have a lot of digging to do. You also mention that you want to just forget all of it but how are you ever going to make it work without getting to the bottom of why each of you has gone outside the marriage?