Letting go is remembering with your mind at ease. How many times did I read that before it meant something REAL to me?
Last year in mid-March we also had a thread about Quinn's birthday. Now, that particular day happens to be significant in my life as well. It was the day I asked my wife to marry me in 1983 as well as my d-day in 1999. But last year, I consciously decided to remember that the most important thing for me about that day would be that it's my friend's birthday.
In 2006, I remembered FIRST that it was Quinn's birthday. Then I remembered "oh, yeah, that other stuff too".
After seven years, it's just another day. I remembered with my mind at ease.
I intend for this to be a message of hope. If a single-minded and determined person like me can learn to let go, anyone can...and probably in less time than I did.
Thanks Chris for your thoughts. Because i am going through that today. It was 1 year ago today that my H had sex with the OW he had been with her before that but it was the other sex BJ's but on this date was the first intercourse! But the bright side of that is it was also the last time they were together. He says because that really made him feel guilty. If that is true or not it is the story he has told me and our MC.Not at first it took awhile for the whole story to come out, and i am 6 months out of D-Day.
Anyway i was afraid i would get up today and feel awful because of the date but i read your message and realize , hey it is just another day!!!I've been through worse and i will get through this day too. Thanks so much ,you really don't know how much you have helped me today!!!
Kathy
