I knew I'd get your attention with that one...especially the ladies (do I detect some bristling?).

This coincides with the thread I wrote to Barb & Kathy (and others) in the Discovery forum regarding the feeling of love versus the act of love, the verb. I think it may be helpful to Steve and SRM...maybe others too.

That excerpt I typed regarding love reminded me of one of my favorite plays, Camelot. I've been thinking a lot about that play/movie in the last six months, as the heartbreak in the story closely mirrors my own (take out the castle, the horses, the wizard and the cool sword, anyway). There's a point in the story where Arthur sings about the love of his life, Guenevere. It has much more impact when you hear Richard Harris sing it, but you get the meaning as it relates to what we're going through...

ARTHUR:
"How to handle a woman?
There's a way," said the wise old man,
"A way known by ev'ry woman
Since the whole rigmarole began."
"Do I flatter her?" I begged him answer.
"Do I threaten or cajole or plead?
Do I brood or play the gay romancer?"
Said he, smiling: "No indeed.
How to handle a woman?
Mark me well, I will tell you, sir:
The way to handle a woman
Is to love her...simply love her...
Merely love her...love her...love her."

Alan Jay Lerner was a genius.

Nice thought but what the hell does love mean anymore?

"I knew I'd get your attention with that one."

Um, Bob, getting tricky now, aren't we?

I think I remember my literature teacher reading that play a few years back and she was stressing that part.

You sound very upbeat lately. That is great!

Charlie

Our high school put on Camelot, and  I was in the orchestra.    And we had a player piano at home and a roll with all the words to all the Camelot songs. 

Thanks for bringing back warm memories.

Jean

 

 

If only he would just "love me". But love to me means being faithful, truthful, trustworthy,being close to one another, showing emotions when needed all the romantic stuff. Just crazy i guess!!
thanks Bob for all your help, it does help me alot!!
Kathy

Give him a chance, Kathy. Love him back. Better yet, love him first. Wait and see what follows. You may like the results.

Nice idea Bob. My motto would be "love him but watch your back".In my first marriage I loved & got shit on.

I am still loving and still being sh_t on!  WOW! That's stinks.  I wonder what I did in a past life to deserve this because I know I did nothing to deserve it in this lifetime.

I am the first to say "good morning"

I am the first to say "good night"

I am the first to say "I love you"

and I try with all my might.....

but maybe, just maybe,

I should be the first to say "good-bye".

Carol~

 

 

Good post Carol. I was a good wife too. It sure didn't get us much! Even after I found out about the A I continued to bake for him when he went on out of town trips. I also made sure that he had a romantic card(with a note) to open each nite he was away. In the last few weeks I hae given up doing those things. Sometimes he would even forget to read the cards. So, I thought"why bother". I no longer have much energy to try.