Thought I'd start a new thread where we can list something good that our BS or WS has done.Anyone interested? I'll go first!
My H opened & closed the truck door for me when we went to the movies last Tuesday night.A big step for him!
Yes, they do. The funny thing is that those "little things" have always mattered the most to me. When H stopped doing most of those "little things" I knew something was up. The little things show you really care. The big things are nice of course, but big things dont happen everyday...it's those little daily things that are consistent...they show real caring and respect for one another.
In addition to helping me on with my robe, I know H cares when he...helps with the dishes...plays with the kids...opens a car door (or any door)...calls me to see how I am or what Im doing...asks my opinion about something...gives me a hug (without me having to initiate or ask)...tells me to have a nice day...asks me how my day went...shows concern for my health...holds my hand...makes me coffee...and gives me a warm smile that says "I am genuinely happy to see you"
You're right,the little things are what mean alot. My H called me yesterday & asked if I'd like to go out tonite(Tues). That makes me happy! We are broke & it's usual the $1.50 movie but I don't care. He's taking the time to think about me & be with me. That means everything to me!!
Another positive for my H. He is still thanking me for the mini Anniversary scrapbook that I made & gave to him on the 28th! I didn't get anything from him & didn't expect anything because we had never celebrated it before, BUT the tears in his eyes, the comment of"that's the best present I've ever received" & the fact that he has thanked me many times since & the knowledge that it meant alot to him was better than any gift he could have gotten me.It seems to be a turning point for us. At least I'm hoping it is!!
Hard to be positive today BUT H did say that I have done more than I should have had to do in this relationship lately(romantic cards, packing his lunches, baking for him, etc.). At least he sees that I have put in more effort than I should have had to!
H did come home between side jobs to help me work on the garage for approx. 20 minutes. He said he would help some more over the next few days. He also called a few minutes ago to say that he has to work at least 3 more hrs. & will call me on his way home. I thanked him for both things.
H met us at the bowling alley for our daughter's birthday party. He stayed for 2 hrs. but could not come back to the house for cake & presents. Anyway, it seems funny to come on this thread & praise him for "normal" things that he should be doing as a H & father.Know what I mean? It's like I have to hang on th whatever tidbit of "good" that he does! It doesn't feel normal.
You're right,the little things are important. Progress just seems to be very slow at times. Then H backslides & I feel like I(we) are back to square one!
Today H called me soon after he left to go to his side job. I was surprised to hear from him so soon!He said that he was sorry he had to rush out of the house this a.m..He said that he loved me & missed me. That was really nice of him.He knows I was feeling sad & lonely yesterday, so it was really nice of him to call me!
