my (now husband) used to be bf cheated on me with a female he work with. I forgave him and then we decided to get marry. so they (him and the female) are in the army and deployed together. I cant help but to wonder if something going on. I know they communicated through emails and messenger. But why have i forgave him and but i cant get it off my mind. I want to believe nothing going on but its hard. We suppose to be on new status. and I question if i made the right decision sometmies. I love my husband. and i really do want to work it out. But I cant help but to bring it up everytime we talk now.And i feel like this is gonna run him off.
Ok we dont have any kids, been together almost 7yrs married a month. this happened in june-july. I forgave him. But I was still hurt it happened and after we got engaged (dec 05). Well in aug he started sayin he wanted to get married and was sorry and everything. Well i did want to work it out but I didnt tell him. I just played it cool. well i didnt give him a straight answer until 2 days b4. I prayed everyday bout it and asked the Lord if it was right then to allow it to happen. well it happen so there must be a reason why. but i feel its my fault cuz i started rushing the wedding and constantly asking and planning. I think it was too much for him not to mention he was worried about his deployment. well i think this is all the details let me know if u need more. Oh and no we are doing counciling when he returns I brought this up to him cuz i thought it would really help and he agreed. (I think thats a good start)But we only spent a week together b4 his deploymetn so thats why. And I know it might have been best to wait but I was worried about me doing sumthing out of anger.
Oh and he say he wont do it again cuz he serious bout his vows and everything
This message has been edited by babicakes19 on Nov 13, 2006 1:15 AM
Could you provide us with more details. When did he cheat, how long ago, when did you decide to get married, did you attend counselling, what has he done to ensure this won't happen again, do you have kids.......
I have to say that for me trusting my gut told me everything I needed to know. When something doesn't feel right, it usually isn't.
You have found a great site with wonderful people who will support you through this.
Ok we dont have any kids, been together almost 7yrs married a month. this happened in june-july. I forgave him. But I was still hurt it happened and after we got engaged (dec 05). Well in aug he started sayin he wanted to get married and was sorry and everything. Well i did want to work it out but I didnt tell him. I just played it cool. well i didnt give him a straight answer until 2 days b4. I prayed everyday bout it and asked the Lord if it was right then to allow it to happen. well it happen so there must be a reason why. but i feel its my fault cuz i started rushing the wedding and constantly asking and planning. I think it was too much for him not to mention he was worried about his deployment. well i think this is all the details let me know if u need more. Oh and no we are doing counciling when he returns I brought this up to him cuz i thought it would really help and he agreed. (I think thats a good start)But we only spent a week together b4 his deploymetn so thats why. And I know it might have been best to wait but I was worried about me doing sumthing out of anger.
