Help! My husband found out of an affair i had over a year ago and in the process admitted to me of 4 incidents of infidelity on his part. So, with all the cards on the table we are both experiencing hurt, anger, etc. Today, however, he is out of control. He is talkign of doing something awful to make the person I was involved with pay. I can't reason with him.
KMH
This message has been edited by hurt2core on Jun 5, 2007 6:50 PM
Four to one and he is wanting to make someone pay...I would suggest that you both take a little time to cool off. He needs to realize what he was doing to you and your relationship when he had his four incidents of infidelity. If any of them was with a married woman then he is no different than the person he now hates.
I would suggest that you both get to counseling as soon as possible, if not marriage counseling then individual counseling as it would seem there are core issues with your relationship, and having relationships that need to be addressed.
I hope you continue to post and when you are comfortable provide more information about the things you are going through and dealing with. One way or another, we are all here for the same reasons. We have been betrayed or have betrayed and are searching for a way to heal.
We've found here that no matter what a person does themself, it always hurts when the same is experienced by that person.
Some people are naturally territorial and it sounds like your H may be that way. So how do you feel about the other women? Do you believe him about the other women or is he just trying to get even with you emotionally? It would logically seem that he wouldn't be so upset with the other man if he'd indeed had so many of his own affairs. Does he think of you as a possession?
I sincerely hope that you come back and post. We value everyone's experiences in the aid of helping others. There are many here who are former wayward spouses. There are some who have been on both sides of the fence with infidelity.
