I know you're out there.  Misha recently de-lurked and posted.  Another poster recently resurrected an old thread with some names we haven't seen for a while...

Who else wants to stop by and say "hi"?

Chris.

I'm still hanging around.......LoL

Jordan

Children make great life jackets.

Here!

Well, once in a while.

I currently have college Physics, Algebra, Ultra Sound Concepts, full-time employment, a teen, and a migrane.

RW

I still come and read regularly, and occasionally post if I feel like I have something to say. My confidence in my advice is not always very good as my marital situation is still unresolved.

I started a great new job a couple of weeks ago after being unemployed for two months, and even though it is similar to what I was doing before in some respects I have a lot to learn. Kids started school and for the first time they attend the same secondary school. So, it's busy but in a good way.

Rosie

Congrats on the new job Rosie!

Oh, I'm still around and doing well

RW, I'm sorry to hear about the migraine. I hope it's better.

Rosie, your experience and insights will be valuable to people and I encourage you to share them. There are others whose marriages aren't quite over, or who took a long time to be sure of their next steps, who could get something from your story.

Chris.

Still here...... barely

cyndee

Hi all!   

I'm finally feeling normal!!  (Whatever that is....)   Really, tho, I think I've found the cause to my myriad of health problems.  I got some tests done and have found that I have hypothyroidism and now my brother has given me a really good supplement that is working wonders.....   Omigosh, I've got energy now and a lot of my fibro pain has slipped away. 

If this keeps up, and with my children getting older, I'm thinking that I will be able to get a full or near-full time job and finally stop subsisting.....   Just being able to clean my house well will be nice.  whoo hooo.  It's so good to start feeling good -- I am hoping it will last.

Jean

<I currently have college Physics, Algebra, Ultra Sound Concepts, full-time employment, a teen, and a migrane.>

RW- I got a migraine just reading that! LOL

Well, I've decided to stay single and unattached! It feels good. All the guys I dated were really nice, and J is wonderful, but I just can't deal with the M/F relationship right now.

Bought a new car yesterday, since someone rammed into the right rear door and tire of my car as I was making a right hand turn! Thankfully neither of us were hurt.

When it rains it pours.

TLMM

MM..........I'm so glad you are okay!!

What kind of new car did ya buy? Your a quick shopper.....I've been looking at SUV's for 2 months and still haven't decided what to do so I made a decision not to make a decision and I think that is the best decision.......if that makes any sense


Anyway.....wow!!!! Sending you hugs and hope you aren't in too much after accident pain.


After being single for a while, men just aren't worth the complications they bring to your life, are they MM? Who needs em anyway

Hugs to ya
Kid

Thanks Kid,

The accident is turning into a mess! If you want to see the car I bought go to ebay item (130151721689).

It will be fun! Must be living my childhood all over!

TLMM

Sweet MM.......least it isn't fire engine red.......then I would say you were having a mid life crisis. Looks like a nice, fun car to drive and I love the color. My next one will be silver/gray

You best come up here and pick me up while we can still ride with the top down

>>After being single for a while, men just aren't worth the complications they bring to your life, are they MM? Who needs em anyway <<

Sharing the cooking, cleaning, laundry and yardwork (and going out on dates) have become "complications"? I guess if you don't want any of that stuff, more power to you.

Chris.

I was 'single' for 10 years - had a ball LOL.... then without any warning - I fell in love - and I was ready

And as you walk you make your path Kat

Sharing the cooking...who cooks?? lol

cleaning, laundry?....doubly dirty with more than 1

yardwork?.....always have and always will do that

going out on dates?...I go out with friends and we have a blast. There is no stilted conversation, wondering if he will try to kiss me, hoping he won't, hours of prep time, running appropriate conversations through my head.....then there are all the games when you make it past date #1 - no thanks!!!!

I don't "need" anybody in my life Chris, I'm pretty independent and I'm just fine on my own for now until Mr. Right comes along - I won't settle for Mr. Right Now, it just ain't worth it.

Kid

Oh and all those things you mentioned, I could hire a maid/gardener to do lmao!

Lets see, got up at 6 am, made a bottle for our grand daughter Jordan, visited with Sunshine who was feeding Jordan. Made another bottle and then took a shower, came out, took Jordan and put her to sleep. Checked email, took MY dirty clothes to the washroom, hung up some clean clothes.

Am sitting here having a southwestern omlet, bacon, toast, and orange juice that I made for myself after kissing Sunshine good bye as she left for work. The cooking utensils are soaking in dishwater and will be clean before I leave.

While I was doing all of this, Sunshine made the bed, had her shower, hung up some of her clothes, and got together a few things for the 16 year old. She left for work at the Rec Center at 4:45 am and Sunshine will be dropping those things off to her on her way to work. She gets off and goes directly to school.

I guess my thoughts are To each their own...together or alone!! We all have to find what works for ourselves, what we want, enjoy, and find happiness in doing. Is life perfect?? Nooooo....but life is good and that is what matters to me.

Oh...I am taking a college course one night a week for credit also...Digital Photograpy, and another will start shortly on Photoshop 5. I used to be heavy into taking, developing, and printing my own photos in the 1970's. Had a Minolta SRT 101 SLR camera.

I just graduated to the following:

Canon XTi Rebel with EFS IS 18-55MM f3.5-6.6 lens
Canon EF-S 17-55mm f/2.8 IS USM Lens for Canon DSLR Cameras
Canon EF 28-135mm f/3.5-5.6 IS USM Standard Zoom Lens for Canon SLR Cameras
Canon EF 70-300mm f/4.5-5.6 DO IS USM Lens for Canon EOS Cameras
Canon EF-S 60mm f/2.8 Macro USM Digital SLR Lens for EOS Digital SLR Cameras

This doesn't count all the filters, a couple of tripods, and so on that go with getting semi professional equipment.

Yes, I had the money saved, and Sunshine didn't bat an eye when we discussed ordering the equipment.

So for me...guess I will do it together...

Dave

P.S...It is 7:55 time enough to do the dishes and leave for work...have a good one.

Sounds like you are having a good time of it.  Yes, life is good.

I love taking photos, too.  If I keep up this "feeling better," I'm gonna get a better job, and then -- watch out -- I'm getting a digital SLR with tripod and filters, etc. And we're gonna get a dog, and I'm gonna get a wardrobe... and ... and.... blah blah blah.....  Anyways,  I love taking photos and was a reporter/photographer right out of college.  My son has gotten the "bug," too, and we often discuss good shots, etc....

I just went out for a 45 min. walk in the park and am feeling really good.  Whoo hoo.  And I've still got energy now to vacuum and clean up the kitchen.  All that would have been unheard of even just weeks ago. 

Who thought that thyroid hormone could do so much, huh? 

Jean

Dave,

I don't ever want to be in the same room with you and my husband. LOL

Photography is something he put down a few years ago but has picked it back up and is going full speed ahead. You guys could talk for days non-stop I'll bet.

GT

Jean...sounds like you are doing better each day...full speed ahead but don't overdue it...

GT...Your husband could talk and I would listen and learn...many similarities between film and digital SLR's....but boy do I have a bunch to learn about digital.

LOL Dave. If you don't need a couple of bags for it and all your lenses and accessories, it's not a real camera, is it?

Chris.

I have seen some awesome point and shoot cameras, I chose the setup I have/am in the process of getting for several reasons.

The Canon Rebel XTi offers me the ability to match it with about 60 different lenses and yet Sunshine can simply slide a switch from MN (manual) to AF (auto focus) and use the camera and any of the lenses I am getting. The lenses I chose all have IS (image stabilization), here again she can use the camera for a lot of action shots and not have to worry about image blur.

Funny thing, what I have learned about myself, what I have taught myself through affair recovery has seeped over into other aspects of my life. Like thinking things through when buying a camera, albiet a semi-professional camera. It has made me research decisions, think things through, and then act on those thoughts and decisions. If Canon comes out with a better camera, I can purchase the body only and stay current.

And lets face it, being 55 and her being 34, when I am in a rest home or worse, she will still have a fantastic camera setup to document grandkids.

So, in what may appear to be a thread hijack, there is actually an example of how affair recovery has made me a better person in other aspects. I guess just like we are lucky enough to have a stronger relationship because of learned communication skills, there are other positive aspects from the process. Wish there had been a less painful way to learn those skills, but like others have stated, if life gives you lemons...make lemonade. (put it in a fancy cup, get a fancy name, and you may be the next Starbucks)

If we look for the negative in life...that is what we will find.

Ok, have rambled on long enough...

Dave

Jean I'm well aware of how a thyroid gland can screw up your entire body. I've been dealing with it for years and it still isn't perfectly regulated. I know I feel better now than I have in a while.

A coworker had her's removed and she has some major problems now. When she eats her face bloats up like a big pumpkin and turns red, and she looks like she is always crying since there is always water running from her eyes down her cheek. Those are only the exterior things I can see. I can't imagine being inside.

Good news.......thyroid replacement exists and is a great thing. You may wish to make sure you are getting the recommended amount of Vit D too. I started taking Vit D pills in fall, winter, spring and CANNOT believe the difference in how I feel!!

>>If we look for the negative in life...that is what we will find.<<

Amen, brother.

And you know what else? If we look for the positive in life...that is also what we will find.

Chris.

Jean, I'm glad you are feeling better, that is great news.

Kid

There are some real good things that come out of a M/F relationship too. Having someone call you every day who cares about your welfare, having someone in your life to have an incredible amount of fun with, sitting and having a candlelight dinner together with a bottle of wine, having someone around who wants to carry you around sometimes because you have a broken foot, having someone to snuggle with at night, having someone who will stop you in the middle of the room with a big smile on his face just because he's looking at you, hmmmmmmmmmm, to me that stuff is priceless... I'm not saying that being by yourself is a bad thing but I noticed that all the bad stuff was listed above in a post and not the good. BTW, some men don't play games at all. Oh, and there's no guarantee that a maid or gardener will care about you.

RW

I have that migrane too. I'm now taking my second Statistics class, Systems Design and Implementation, Database Concepts, a part-time job and crutches to boot. The Database class is kicking my butt, which I certainly didn't expect and so are these crutches. One more semester after this (if I can fit all the classes in) and I'll be done, whew!!!!

Charlie

>>If you don't need a couple of bags for it and all your lenses and accessories, it's not a real camera, is it?>>

Geez, you got that right. We carry around more bags now than we did when our children were babies. And all of it is for camera accessories. I kid you not, he carries the backpack with the camera and then two extra bags for other stuff he might need. If it's a photo shoot inside we lug a trunk full of lights as well. You can imagine how happy this makes the kids....LOL

But I must say, it makes me happy to see him enjoying a hobby so much again. Especially one he put down for a number of years. And the positive thing is we have some very good photos documenting our lives. Which is great when you have kids who change monthly.

Dave, if you tell my husband what you wrote above he'd get you in a room and never let you out. If there's one thing that can get him talking it's photography.

GT

Hi Jean,

I was just wondering what your brother prescribed for you?

Thanks,
TLMM

It's called GTA-Forte, and it's made by Biotics Research Corporation.  If you google it, there's lots of info on it.  (Do you have thyroid issues too?)

Jean

 

Kid, I'm taking a multivitamin too, also by Biotics Research, which has Vitamin D in it.... but I'm running out of these and have to get some more!  Yes, thyroid hormone is a good thing!!  Yay for science.

Charlie, how much longer to you have to be on crutches?

Jean

Charlie,

One more semester? What will you be doing? What degree?

You go girl!

RW

Charlie if I actually found one of those men that would do even half the things on your list then I might be willing to give him a try, but my experiences have been totally opposite of yours. That doesn't mean I have completely given up the search, but I am definitely taking a hiatus for awhile.

I'd rather be alone and happy

K

Kid

I understand you feeling that way if you've had a lot of bad experiences. I hope you can meet someone nice. I'm certain I want to spend my life with this one. We've talked about it and think we would still be married if we had met and married years ago. He's pretty special and I'm picky so I don't feel like I'm making assumptions without knowing him well enough. I would say that for the first time in my life, I feel like I have someone who truly takes care of me and I try to give the same in return. Sometimes I think you can meet someone and they are much like you so there is a lot of compatibility. I hope you meet someone like that.

Jean
"Charlie, how much longer to you have to be on crutches?"

I get another x-ray tomorrow so should know more then. I'll try to remember to let you know. I know it isn't healed yet, but hopefully it at least started to mend. It still hurts if I put weight on the heel of that foot as the doctor said I could.

RW
"One more semester? What will you be doing? What degree?"

Thanks RW. I already have 2 associates, one in Business Admin and Network Engineering. After this one, I will have a BS in Business Administration with a major in IT and a cluster in management (this is 2 less classes than a second major)

There are likely many jobs I could take with this degree. I think I will prefer a Systems Analyst job in IT but Database might be a possibility as well. I suppose I'll find that out when I start applying. How about you? What are you going for?

Charlie

Kid,

There are some good men out there, my past was filled with bad experiences also. September 29th is an anniversary of sorts, it will be 14 years since I wrote a poem, rolled it up like a scroll, tied it to a single red rose, and had it delivered to Sunshine to ask her out.

Sure, since then we have had some bad experiences, and I wanted to give up several times, but she fought for our relationship. Some will say people can't change, I have to disagree, she has changed, and I have changed.

Helping raise our grand daughter for the last three months has been full of changes. It is strange how I can have a stressful day, a lousy day, and all I have to do to feel great is see her little smile. Its the simple things in life that mean so much now days.

I am still learning about life at 55 and I am glad I am. So take a break and be patient, there are still some real men out there, some good guys, and finding happiness within your self alone before you try to share your life with another is a good thing.

Yep, the simple things, holding Sunshines hand, a baby's smile, or a walleye on the end of the line. What ever it is, happiness from within first is most important.

Dave

Charlie,

I have an associates in business. I'm not too interested in sales and managment these days.

This new direction is a switch although it is an ongoing interest - medical.

The program I'm in is another 2-year called Cardiac Sonography. It's one type of (sound wave) imaging and just one organ.

.......but Database might be a possibility as well. ...

oh, Charlie, you said a magic word LOL would you be available for coaching an innate how to build a database??? With the many 'hats' I wear at work it could very well end up in my court LOL LOL

And as you walk you make your path Kat

Well, I feel sorry for you Kat. LOL This class is not an easy one. I'd have to learn more myself before I taught someone else.

Charlie

Just dropped in thought I'd say hi. Don't go out to the websites much anymore. Hope everyone is doing well!
Z