She was married with 3 children. She started up an affair with a married man who had 4 children.

The man's wife eventually unearthed the situation, and it went off in their lives like a land mine.

Shortly afterward, the married woman with 3 children told her husband the truth (in a restaurant and with no remorse). He abruptly moved out of their home. The wife's husband cut off the affair and returned to his family.

Two months passed. The wife called the affair woman (who was a complete stranger) with a specific question/concern regarding the 7 involved children who were likely to cross paths. One additional brief comment she made to her was, "My family has gone through hell because of this".

The affair woman responded, "The problems you are having with your family and kids are due to your teaching. My kids know about the affair and are fine with it".

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What exactly had she managed to 'teach' her children? Also, is she suggesting that the wife should also 'teach' her children the same thing?

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Another angle: Say there is a man who you do not know who starts sneaking around with your wife. You find out and all hell breaks loose in your long-term marriage.

During a brief moment of contact with that man, he proceeds to tell you that all the trouble you're going through is in fact not due to his deceptive affair with your wife, but rather it is actually due to your teaching techniques to your children! To further his 'point' he states that his kids are fine with it in spite of the fact that their mother has moved out of the house.

This man does not know anything about you other than very intimate details about your wife.

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Track that thinking.

Well RW, along the same type of thinking, the OW in my ex's and my marriage called me and told me thanks for ruining her marriage by called her H and telling him about it. She told me that if I ruined her marriage she would fight for and get my ex. I told her to go ahead, they were made for each other... LOL

I thought that was a good response.

Charlie

Charlie,

Holy COW.

That 'type' of thinking makes me think - head trauma.

It's some other-worldy form of physics that I'm not familiar with. It's a place where if you spit in her face, you could simply explain that she inhaled and your spit accelerated in her direction. It was her fault.

Your right RW, it certainly is screwed up thinking. Unbelievable.

Charlie