Hi all,
I haven't been on in awhile because things have going so well for my H and I. My daughter is 4. I've grown so much from where I was five years ago. My life is simple now, but I love how simple it is. Things are going very well.

I don't know how to handle something, though. I have been faithful to my husband. I have had to work really hard to regain his trust, and I think I have come a long way in doing that. He still gets nervous when I have to go away for work, etc. but we work through it. I still have a lot of moments when I am very depressed about what I put him through. The pessimistic side of me says there is no way we will ever make it because of me.

This past year I had several bouts of a urinary tract infection. That is what they thought it was. They now believe I have genital herpes. I am devastated. How do I tell my husband without him thinking I am dirty and that I have been unfaithful? They said I could have contracted it years ago and haven't known it. I don't know when I got it.

Can someone tell me how to do this?

I also have genital herpes which I developed as a result of the affair. First and foremost, you need to do some research and arm yourself with as much information about this as you can so that any questions he has (and he will have lots) you can explain to him.

Second, if you are seeing a counsellor, you may wish to make an appt for both of you to bring this issue forward in a controlled environment.

Third, you need to be honest. If you have it and have been having urinary tract infections and they think they are herpes, he likely already has it to so he will need to be tested.

Have they done testing to confirm their suspicions? Saying they think that is the problem could be way off base.

My first outbreak consisted of really bad urinary tract infections because the blisters hurt so much I couldn't pee........and bacteria was getting into the urethra and causing urinary tract infections. Be careful they can spread higher up if not dealt with.

I'm sorry you have to join the club, but honestly I haven't had any issues in a long time, not since I got rid of alot of stress in my life. Stress tends to trigger these things.

You should check with your doctor, but I take a cranberry capsule everyday and drink lots of cranberry juice if i suspect a UTI coming on. Lately it has been enough to ward them off.

I'll try to post a website link shortly that will give you good accurate info.

Kid




http://www.racoon.com/herpes/

Here is a great info site and support group I found when i was diagnosed.

Herpes can't be cured, but it can be managed with Valtrex. If you get frequent outbreaks your doctor may prescribe Valtrex or Acyclovir daily.

It isn't the big stigma it used to be. The stats are that 1 in 4 woman have it and 1 in 5 guys. The problem is that most people don't know they have it, so it gets spread. Lots of people have it and show no signs and condoms do not prevent the spread since other areas of the genitals touch even though there is a condom on.

Also, you need to find out if you have HSV1 or HSV2 genitally. HSV1 is the herpes simplex 1 that is responsible for coldsores on the mouth. It can be transferred to another person's genitals by oral sex. Outbreaks are less frequent. This is what I have.

HSV2 is the true genital herpes and people who have this tend to have more severe and more frequent outbreaks.

A blood test can be done by the doctor to determine this.