I just do not understand this whole thing. The lies are just getting worse, and to top it off he thinks I am stupid. When I confront him, it somehow turns around and becomes my fault! This is so hard for me to talk about. I guess the only way to do it is just dive right in. My husband cheats on me every chance he gets. Not only with real people, but with porn. He would rather jack off to a book or a movie than have sex with me, and since he does that so much, he usually can't get it up for me. Now I am an attractive woman and I love sex, and now my sex life is over. He is on vacation this week and as soon as I left for work, out the door he went to either the adult store, the strip club, or to someones house. There are numbers on our phone, and they are girls and he claims that they probably were wrong numbers. However, these wrong numbers keep showing up! I did some laundry tonight and clothes were in it that he hadn't worn as far as I knew, and when I asked him, he just didn't say a word. We have a garage and our cars are always parked inside, when I came home from work, his truck was outside and I asked him why the truck was outside, espically since it was raining, he said he had to run to work that his boss called. Well he forgets that we have caller ID and low and behold, no call from the boss.
I feel so all alone.
Glad that you found us.There are some great people here that will be able to help you alot more than I will. I'm still pretty new to this A mess. There were a few things that came to mind as I read your post. Hope you don't mind me asking questions. First of all, if your H is always cheating, why are you still with the guy? Are you afraid of being alone? Are you still in love with him & want to work things out? Also, does your H realize that he has problems & if so does he want to get help for his sex addiction problems?Also, it's my feeling that if you don't set some boundries, he will continue this disrespectful behavior towards you. My H has had one A & he knows if it ever happens again or if there are any more lies, he is out the door. He will lose his home, his wife, & his 4 kids. There are no second chances in my marriage. My H should never have lied or cheated. He knows he's damn lucky to get a second chance. I have it all in writing too.You need to set boundries. Decide what you can live with, state the boundries & the consequences. Then you must follow thru with them.I hope that things work out the way you want them to. I just wanted to welcome you to our group. This is a very safe place to be. As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, there are others here who will be able to help you alot more than I can.Take care.
Marmie, I'm posting this on the Discovery Forum so that more folks can see it and respond. The member's forum is difficult to keep track of when posting occurs. It is set up for one's overall story and not for respond posting.
Welcome to our community. It will be safe for you to discuss your issues here. I'm sorry that you had to come looking for us.
