Members of Affair Discovery and Recovery: Do I qualify??

I'm not certain if my story qualifies here. I'm not married, but was betrayed by dating partner/SO. {Where does one go in situations like that?}

I have the time to post this, but will delete if this is not the site for my dilemma.

I met my WSO through internet dating site. All through contact, I knew that his ex lived down the street from him in their country town, and visited regularly {hours a day at times} and they shared custody of their children. They had been together eleven years, and divorced this year after he told me they had been 'emotionally' divorced for four years.

My WSO and I were a four hour drive apart, but we drove the distance each weekend to spend time with each other. {I had a 10 month old son at the time} I knew his ex was in the picture, she even assisted with offering to transport my personal belongings after I crashed my car one of those weekends and my son and I ended up in hospital. {Yes, broken ribs as a result}

She was supposedly out looking for new dating/relationship partners herself and had one as an interest... until he rejected her.

In hindsight, I now see that as the time my relationship with SO began to deteriorate. Two weeks later, he broke up with me, citing lack of infatuative feelings, and that I was too competitive a personality for him. To his credit, he drove the four hours to break the news to me face to face. I was shocked. {Had just bought Holiday turkey and Ham previous day so I had no idea this was about to happen}

Just over 24 hours later, he e-mailed me with regrets and wanted to reconcile. However, he also {and I give him credit here} admitted that he was 'manipulated into being bedded' by his ex that very day. {Not fifteen hours after breaking up with me} Now logically, I know this to be rebound sex. Emotively, I was a wreck, I lashed out at him - wanting to hurt him as much as I hurt, {over the phone this is difficult} and hurled vocal abuses and scorned him and her. Told him I wanted her nowhere near me nor my son. Am I wrong to feel that my Hopes for Reconciliation were betrayed?? He did not appear to understand my fury.

It's been a month, and he recently sent me a 'Happy New Year' cell phone text message. I responded, to hope he had a Happier New Year. We texted just a little more. I sense that he is having extra regrets but is also perhaps hoping for a reconcile... since his ex is now moving out of town. {She apparently has an SO - go figure??}

IF my senses are correct - I am picking up that he is thinking of a reconcile, and I would have certainly been open to a reconcile before he had sex with her. I have to account that they were married before, and they do share a history. At least it wasn't some strange woman from the bars/street. The image still sickens me, and it replays over and over in my head but I could move past this.

In your opinions, IF I allowed him back into my life, would I be wrong in insisting on Relationship Counselling and Him acknowledging his part in the situation? {She couldn't have succeeded in bedding him if he hadn't allowed it and set her some boundaries}

Please, if you need any clarification, just ask.

Edited to add... I suspect this will be moved to Discovery... this is the thing with 'new to the sites'. Hmmm.

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