well...here's my story. My H went out with some friends of ours (i was home because i was ill). He met a couple who were friends of our friends too. The night carried on and my H and the OMW exchanged #'s. My H claims that she was a fun and bubbly person to talk to. Well, eventually it escaladed and now i am here. When i thought he was at work, he was tex messaging her and talking on the phone with her. He took days off and went to lunch with her twice. He claims that the other days he took off cuz he was going nuts with the guilt and confusion of it all. But two times, the OHW took lunch to my husband and they crossed the line both times in our truck! He states that he only saw her physically about 5 times in the 6 or so weeks, and only had sex with her twice (he said it happened so fast because he was on a lunch break and had to get back). This affair was discovered because we share mutual friends and i questioned who these people were. Our mutual friend was also asked by the OWH about what was going on. We set up a meeting on Dec 16 and met with our mutual friend, my H, me and the OWH (she was in the hospital because of an opperation). The OWH confronted my H and my H still denied it. The next day he felt terrible guilt because he swore on the lives of our children. The truth came out. Since that meeting on Dec. 16, i have kept in touch with the OWH comparing information to see if my H has told me all that i have asked. I dont know if that is a wise choice but i think that my brain will make up worse senarios. I have become this insane person that i never knew i was. It has even scared me. The OW claims that she is in love with my H (i also spoke to her on the phone) and that she "believed everything" my H said. By the way that my H is behaving, one would never think he actually "loved" her back. He claims that he realized it was just infatuation. He said that it was nice to talk to someone who would not argue. I guess he found comfort. I'm just so confused and never thought that my heart could ache this much.

Hi Jetta

Thanks for sharing your story with us but sorry you had to come looking for us. This is a very good group of people here with lots of years of experience with affairs.

I'm copying your post to the Discovery board so that you will get responses there. The Members board is here so that we can learn about someone's story versus replying here. Glad you found us.

Welcome
Charlie