HERE GOES... WE WERE HIGHSCHOOL SWEETHEARTS GOT MARRIED VERY YOUNG I WAS 18 HE WAS 20. HAVE BEEN MARRIED 20+ YEARS. RAISING TWO KIDS, HOUSE , BIILS , ETC. HE GOT CLOSE TO A WOMEN AT WORK, KEPT IT A SECRET FROM ME. HE HAD LOTS OF WOMEN FRIENDS THROUGHOUT, BUT THIS ONE WAS DIFFERENT. THEY STARTED SHARING PERSONNEL STORIES WITH ONE ANOTHER. SHE CLAIMED TO BE IN A BORING UNLOVING MARRIAGE, HE BOUGHT IT. SHE WALKED IN HIS OFFICE IN A RAINCOAT ONE DAY AFTER EVERYONE LEFT, DROPPED IT AND STOOD BEFORE HIM IN A SEXY BRA AND PANTIE SET. THIS LED TO THEIR FIRST KISS. AFTER HOURS BECAME FUN FOR BOTH OF THEM !!!!! THIS LED INTO A 5 YR. AFFAIR WITH BRIEF BRACKUPS IN-BETWEEN. MY HUSBAND SWITCHED JOBS NUMEROUS TIMES, HE SAYS TO TRY TO GET AWAY???? THE JOBS WERE ALWAYS WITH THE SAME COMPANY SO THERE WAS ALWAYS SOME KIND OF CONTACT. SHE WAS A VERY AGGRESSIVE WOMAN, SO MUCH SO THAT SHE WAS HARRASSING ANOTHER WOMEN HE WAS CLOSE TO AT WORK, WAS EVEN BROUGHT TO COURT AND CHARGED. SAYS THIS SCARED HIM WONDERING WHAT SHE WOULD DO TO ME? HE SAYS AT THIS POINT HE GOT SO DEEP INTO IT HE COULDN'T FIND A WAY OUT. I EVENTUALLY CAUGHT HIM IN A LIE AND HE CONFESSED EVERYTHING TO ME. SHOCKED BUT TRYING TO UNDERSTAND AS MUCH AS I COULD, WE WENT INTO COUNSELING. I DON'T THINK I NEED TO EXPLAIN THE PAIN OF BETRAYAL TO ANYONE HERE, BUT IT IS THE WORST ANYONE CAN GO THROUGH BESIDES LOSING A CHILD. I HAD IN CONTROL DAYS AND PLENTY OF OUT OF CONTROL ONES THROUGHOUT MY FIRST YEAR, BUT THINK I HANDLED IT IN A GOOD WAY, AND THAT WAS ONLY FOR MY OWN BEING. ABOUT A YEAR AFTER, I FOUND OUT SHE WAS ALSO HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH ANOTHER CO-WORKER EVEN BEFORE MY HUSBAND CAME ALONG.WOW!!! THIS CHANGED ALOT OF THE HARD WORK I PUT INTO TRYING TO UNDERSTAND. MY POINT BEING HOW CAN YOU LET THIS WOMEN CONTROL YOUR LIFE FOR SO LONG SHE IS NOTHING BUT A PREDETOR TRYING TO WRECK PEOPLES LIVES? I NOW LOOK AT MY HUSBAND DIFFEERENTLY, EVEN MORE SO. I AM HERE TRYING MY BEST ONCE AGAIN TO TRY, WHAT EVER THE ENDING IS, I KNOW I DID RIGHT BY MY MARRIAGE BUT MOST OF ALL FOR MYSELF. SO MUCH MORE, CAN GO ON FOREVER, TRIED TO KEEP IT SHORT BUT FLOODED IT ALL OUT. THANKS FOR BEING HERE!!!!!

My ex had an A with a stripper in Ohio. She has 2 kids out of her 3 failed marraiges. She knew he was married and didn't care. I know just what your saying. How could the person we thought we knew do something so horrible with someone like that? How could they risk everything they have for some homewrecker? It does change how you look at them. Everyone keeps saying with time it will get better & I'm keeping my fingers crossed that they are right. I hope everyone on this site finds the relief they're looking for. Take Care.