Dear Mods,

Would you consider adding Janis Abrahms Spring's book "How Can I Forgive You?: The Courage To Forgive, the Freedom Not To" the the Helpful Links book list? I found it to be one of the most helpful books I used during my recovery (and heaven knows I read a TON of them!)

Thanks,

fairyfriend

FF,

I will make sure Tom sees this.

Ami

Thanks for the suggestion. I have several good links to add to our list of resources, so this is a good one to add to that.

TomJ

Bump! I don't want y'all to forget to add this book to the list!

Thanks! ff

Bumping up again because I know y'all are busy, but I really believe this book needs to be on the list!

Thanks.

ff

I'm really sorry...

I just need to get to work on this type of maintaince and I've been putting it off.

I promise to work on this over the weekend.

TomJ

I agree this was a great book. Made me feel a lot better about me CHOOSING to stop beating myself up for not WANTING to forgive him! I learned accepting what happened was good enough to continue having a strong loving marraige.

Forgiveness was my choice... and frankly what he did was unforgivable! It wasn't about me not loving him, or not beating him up anymore, it was simply the term forgiveness was something I could not wrap my heart around. Choosing to love, choosing to let go of revenge thoughts I could deal with, I call that acceptance. This book helped me to deal with my own pain about not being a forgiving person.

Glad you recomended it.

Hi dear Ami, and Tom, speaking of people who mean a lot to me!

Fodnly,
EL

I'm patient. I'll keep bumping this up until you have a chance to add it because I think it's such a great book that all BS, maybe all people, need to read it.

ff

I'm sorry... I didn't have much time this past weekend. I haven't forgotten.

Tom

Thanks, Tom. I wasn't upset or anything, and I certainly understand how easy it is to get overwhelmed and not remember to get everything done you want to get done. I figured that you would get around to it when you got the chance, and I know I don't mind when I get reminded about tasks that I really do intend and want to accomplish, so I figured you probably wouldn't mind my bumping this up.

ff

Isn't on the list yet! So I'm bumping again!

Bump! Bump!

ff

Thanks for the reminder. I've obviously continued with my recalcitrant behavior on this. I had not forgotten, but I have not been diligent in "getting 'er done". I did some work a while ago (October), but did not complete it.

If there is one thing one can say about FF and that is she has patience LOL


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Funny you should say that, Helen, because if there is one thing people have commented to me on, it was that I have patience. I wish I had more (don't we all!).

Thank you, Tom. I am sure you are quite busy, as life never lets up, does it? Unfortunately, in addition to being patient, I am also often anxious and want to make sure things don't get forgotten--the joy of having OCD!

ff

Thanks for your patience and your persistence. I added it tonight.

TomJ

Thanks, Tom. I consider your having done so as a wonderful Valentine's present to anyone who needs to read that book.

Thank you,

ff

I too have enjoyed this book and have found it very useful. Thank you for adding it.

~ CAL
"You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection" ~ Buddha