Your so right all the good girls and guys are hard to find because they are all studing or just staying home or doing something as simple as going to the movies but its really like that for all people not just hnomg. It sounds like you have pretty high values and morals about the kind of life you would like to lead. I am not hmong but I am doing a research paper for my school about Hmong culture so if you or anyone would be interested in maybe letting me interview you or just get your point of views, culture, and feelings about the world that would be great. Thanks