I can't say I have very good words to describe anything. It seems like an "impedance mismatch" type problem. What one individual feels completely at ease with pursuing a given subject, another feels violated & "outed" by merely suggesting the subject. The other being forced to face things that they don't want to, or aren't ready to, face just yet. And face things on other people's terms, not their own.
So the self-preservation fight-or-flight reactions kick-in. The adrenaline rush, the anger, the high blood pressure, and the red face, they respond in the only way they can - fighting to survive. Using rational thought, or not.
I wonder if the type of "pressure" (for lack of a better term) that I can put on individuals like that might actually "stunt their growth" so to speak. Are they being so traumatized by being forced to face something do they actually "lock in" their defenses, so to speak, making it harder for them to overcome the subject in the future?
I'm not sure that I buy all that just yet. It's the current hypothesis being pondered. It sure would explain a lot, including describing why's there's a tendency for these things to get worse over time and not better.
This message has been edited by ever-a-newbie on Jan 25, 2010 7:23 PM