as far as being clear as to the offer: remember it doesn't matter if a coach comes to everyone of your games, tells you that they "want" to make an offer, etc. My daughter was in a situation where she was being "courted" by her #1 school. They were talking a great game, but were slow on the draw about making the offer. A 2nd offer came in. We told them about the offer...they asked that we hold off as long as we could. a week went by and we found out that #1 school was trying to secure another position. Well at the end of the day, she went with 2nd offer and is loving the situation!