my mum is in the last stages of her erminal illness. she is being nursed at home as we thought this would be more dinified for her, she is not conscious and has now been put on morphine to ease some of her pain. i wish tht god would take her so tht her suffering would be over, im 24 and about to loose my mum i am so depressed i dont know where to turn. the doctor has been today and said tht it will be very soon, as her organs are givinn up now and so i know she we be gone from my life forever soon.

I will pray for you and your family tonight. Remember that your mother will always be with you, when my husband died in a traffic accident my mother came to me in dreams, and two days after he died both my parents came to me in a dream, we were on a train and my husband was travelling in the opposite direction, he waved goodbye to me and they were with me all the time. Only time can heal this awful ordeal. But your mother will be free from pain and in a wonderful place watching over you. God bless you and help you over this terrible time.
Anna

well my mum sadly passed away at 5:50am this morning and i am so lost i dont think i am going to get through this she is in a better place i know but it feels like someone has torn my heart in two....

I know you are feeling terrible now, there are group therapy that you should try, they really do help. Do you have any brothers or sisters? It helps to speak about your mother as much as you can.Remember the happy times, the times when you laughed together. When my husband died I drove into the mountains alone and howled like a wolf, I screamed at him, angry for leaving me alone, I told him how much I loved him. Crying is also very good for you donīt try and stop it, let it all out.

well, the funeral was thursday and it was the hardest thing iv ever had to do. i cry all the time and people say tht if i cry im lettin it out and ill feel better but i just feel worst. i feel angry because of her illness and tht it was self inflicted well some of it was but i just need her to be here with me. i have so many things i need to say to her, i dont know what to do.........

Hi, Im really very sorry for your loss. I lost my partner to cancer 22/2/07. I understand how you felt regarding your Mother going to a better place. Please dont feel it is partly self inflicted. My partner smoked a lot, and died from lung cancer age 34. I felt very angry at cancer, almost saw it as a evil being? I managed to say a few things I needed to say before he died, but as time goes by, many more thing come to me to say. I found that I would just talk to his picture and tell him that way. It does help. Although it s a one sided conversaton, i gain peace knowing at least he can hear me.

Tony,

read your message on this site and wonder how you feel now? I have just lost my partner to cancer - he was a healthy, good living, fit 48 yr old. we only met last August - both looking for our sole mate after shitty relationships, and in his case a messy divorce. We moved in together in Feb this year. It was 10 wks ago that the first glimpse of something wrong appeared, and he died just over a week ago. We were so in love. I dont know what to do.

Mary