Well I lost my dad aged 64yrs,5 months ago on Tues 19th December 2006 at 01.50am, He had been fighting small cell lung cancer. He was diagnosed May 2006 and received 1 cycle of chemo. My poor dad had 6 weeks in between ending his chemo and the cancer returning! It does not seem 5 months it seems more like 2 months ago we lost him. It still feels at times he is away on holiday or just popped to the shops! I came across this web site this evening and wish I had found this earlier because I do not know about other people having lost someone, but I have now found people now stop asking how you are coping and appear to think you are when actually you still want the whole world to stop and take note that YOUR DAD is not here anymore! I know life has to go on and it has I do not know how? sometimes as it all happened so quickly! I get times during maybe day,week or month that you look back in the memories of the last 6 months and it takes your breath away actually believing it to be true.

Thanks for lettting me down load my thoughts it has helped me alot!

Bec

I'm new to this site but felt compelled to respond to your post. I can empathise with so much of what you said. My dad passed on 6, almost 7, weeks ago and I too feel that friends assume now it's time for me to move on and have stopped asking how I am - reality is I'm still living under the hope that this is all a dream and when I wake up I'll tell everyone how awful it was because it was so real! I always dreaded, as I am sure we all do, the day I would lose one of my parents, but nothing, nothing at all, could have prepared me for how awful the reality is. My dad was taken so very suddenly, I don't know if that makes it easier because he didn't suffer....or harder because we were so unprepared, I guess the truth is you are never ever prepared and there is no 'easy' way to come to terms with our loss. I just keep saying over and over and over 'he's gone, I'll never see my dad again'.

Thanks for listening, JW