Hi everyone - I have just found this message board and hope very much to be able to 'come on board' with you all. I lost my wonderful husband John a little while ago and sometimes can't even think about getting through the day without him let alone the rest of my life ! - we have our own little business (making trafficv lights) would you believe, so not only have I lost the most important person in my life but lost his wages, my job and wages the lot. Not a very good way to be heading for the Christmas period but I know others are a loss worse off than me and they are getting there (wherever 'there' is. My husband has a fall at work and hit his head, the hospital insisted after doing scans that he had brain tumours they would not listen to me I knew that the fall had caused a bleed in his brain. Anyway they pumped him full of steroids and by the time they realised they had made a mistake he had pneumonia and I lost him,. I could'nt have tried harder to keep him here and get them to listen but all to no avail. I just held his hand and watched my lovely, strong smiling husband fade away, no waning no apologies nothing - life is hard sometimes but anyone on this message board understands how I feel at the moment, pain anger need someone to blame. Well that is my story, hope someone out there might be able to give me a little 'hope' that things do improve - thanks for listening - Wissy

Hello to everyone and a warm welcome to all who are new on here.
I've been away on holiday and am still catching up with things at home, but I have been reading the posts and offer my sincere condolences to you all.
This site has been wonderful for me and I do hope you will find it comforting too.
I will write more later.
Love to you all.
Louise x

Welcome to all who have the sad need to join us here. You will find help here undoubtedly, as I think we all do. All I can say, is that I know from my own experience that it will become tolerable (no more than that, probably) but the main thing is to get over the shock which seemns to hit us all in the first few months. It is 11 years and 8 months since our son died, and I still feel pain, but I can live with that. My wife died in April, and the tears still hit me suddenly when I least expect it, but I do know that it is possible to survive. Please keep[ on sharing with us, and we will do all we can.
Love,
Derry

My thoughts are with you Christine in the loss of your husband, as they are with everyone else in our situation.
I have no magic words, I wish I had.
You must do what Derry tells us all to do, post on this forum to us all, we will answer and chat back with you, because it is support to us from you also. We know exactly what your going through, we're not imagining.
Some of us have been left extremely lonely after the loss of our loved ones, me included, and have the need to be in touch with you wonderful people who are of the same.
It may help just a little Christine to try and think of John, just like my Pam and the rest of our loved ones, as simply fast asleep in no pain, that is how I think of my Pam now.
You try and be strong girl and post to us what ever you wish

Sincerely

John