my sister has just been killed in america she was hit by a car we only found out yesterday but it happened 2 weeks ago they only just traced us is it right to grieve when we know nothing not even where she is only that it is north carolina still waiting on police contacting us with details one minute i cry next i feel guilty because she is suck somewhere in america and is alone so alone i just want to bring her home but fell like i have waited for news and no one is telling me details

am i being stupid feeling this way i feel so confussed i cant sleep or eat everytime i try to sleep i wake up seeing her lying there alone so alone

lost anna

I just wanted to say how I feel for you in this situation. My losses were totally different in the way they happened (One sudden, the other long drawn out), but I know if this horrible thing had happened to me I would be as devastazted as you are now. ll I can say is, please don't loses hoep[. You will get help from all of us here, and from many other total strangers, but I am afraid the shock will take a lot of getting over. You will get over it, in time, I can assure you, but meanwhile I am thinking of you, and willing you to be strong at getting through it.
Love
Derry

things are taking so long my sister was cremated last wednessday we got 4 hrs notice of this the funeral parlour would not wait any longer it is so unfair

Dear Anna,
I was so sad to read your post and offer my sincere condolences.
Please continue to write on here and let us know how you are.
Thinking of you and everyone else on this site.
Love,
Louise x

Hi Anna,

It must be so hard just waiting. My sister died in egypt a few years ago, luckily though my mum was visiting her at that time, and it is not so far, I was able to fly out there the next day. but I do (vaguely) remember how confused I was before I got there, and the journey was like hell.
I guess this whole time is awful, but hold in there because it will start to unravel slowly and you will make more sense of it soon.
But look after yourself please, and stay close to the rest of your family, because the shock of hearing such news from far away and being so helpless is a huge trauma.
If you want to write to me please do.

Hello Anna....Iv'e just seen your message on the other board and replied there. I'm glad you found this board as the people here as Derry said are all strangers but well know all the emotions you are suffering now...I do hope that by you useing this board you find some answers and make some lovely friends to help you heal from this tradgic loss.

Try to take care of yourself.

Dave.

(Site owner)

Hi Anna,

I feel just the same. I feel lost and frightened and guilty. It does not seem normal to feel that way. I feel pathetic and guilty and stupid for being a mess.

But it would be abnormal if I didn't react to it all. It's so hard but it is normal to feel ashamed for not keeping strong or together but it is so normal under these circumstances to feel guilty, frightened etc.

I should tell myself this more often but I too have periods where I feel bad for not being stronger.

Don't worry about what you feel. It's normal for what has happened.

Sorry for your loss.