April is said to be the cruelest month. In my case that could well be true.Today is the anniverssary of our son Gwyn's suddn and unexpected death. Also on the 8th April a year ago my beloved wife Pat died after a year of pain and suffering.. I am alone in my house, with only pictures of them to look at.
The good news is that, as I often say on here, pain does ease with time. Please believe me, all of you who are going through the agony of separation. It took a long time in Gwyn's case, but I can honestly say that I can now look at his picture without weeping, but only remnembering the good times we had. With Pat, the feelings are still pretty raw, but nevertheless I am coping, and I would like to say to you all, please keep on believing that things will get better.
My faith was shattered when Gwyn died, but seeing how Pat carried her suffering so bravely, and how peaceful she was in the last days has led me once again to believe that death is not the end. I don't know the answer, but I feel sure that outside this vale of tears there is a heaven to which we will all go. In fact, I believe we are already there if only we can see it, and get on with our lives acting on that assumption. I felt that Pat carried her own heaven with her, and I was privileged to have known her for so long. I only hope I can now carry on being as "heavenly" as she was, in the hope that I will rejoin her someday.
Be brave, everyone and keep on keeping on.
Love,
Derry

Dear Derry,
I do hope you got through Sunday the best you could.
You are always here for everyone and I'm extremely grateful for all your postings.
I'm having quite a few problems myself, in addition to grieving for my mum, hence the late response, but you and everyone else on here are in my thoughts.
Love,
Louise x

Hi Derry - I hope this month's double anniversary has brought some relief with its passing. I am always under great strain around my sister's anniversary in february, I imagine the first anniversary of your wife's death must have been very hard. But I also remember feeling a slight sense of closure after one year - it is only a length of time but somehow psychologically it changed something for me.
Very best wishes, and thanks for all the posts and the feelings you share here, it really does mean a lot to me when I read them, as I'm sure it does to many others. You are certainly creating something positive out of your experiences by helping others, even if you do not realise to what extent.
Eleanor

Hi Derry - I hope this month's double anniversary has brought some relief with its passing.

Thanks for that! Yes , it has.

I imagine the first anniversary of your wife's death must have been very hard. But I also remember feeling a slight sense of closure after one year - it is only a length of time but somehow psychologically it changed something for me.

i have felt the same thing. Life does go on, and I feel I can now start to move forward. Still very lonely at times, but I am keeping very busy, and I have developed a routine of practising the guitar, whioch helps me through th bad patches.


Very best wishes, and thanks for all the posts and the feelings you share here, it really does mean a lot to me when I read them, as I'm sure it does to many others.

That is nice of you to say so. I do like to feel my remarks may help other people. Messages like yours help me too!
Love ,Derry