hello again,

firstly i'd like to say thank you for those people you have replied to my first message here, it gave me comfort hearing from you, as i now know that they are people out there that do understand what i'm going through.

some of you will no that today would have been my wedding, but my partner passed away alot quicker than expected.

i know that this may seem a stupid question but it keeps running through my head, i would be grateful to anyone elses throughts.

we had everything organised for our wedding, dress venue etc. all have had to be notified, and the wedding dress put in shop storeage until i can face collecting it.
the thing is that we had ordered our wedding rings and i know they are still in the shop we had order them from. part of me wants to get the rings and wear my ring as from today, as had Sean been here our wedding would have gone ahead. on the other hand i'm not sure if doing this would be the right thing to do as my mum says i cannot change the fact that our marriage was not to be and perhaps by getting the rings i am not accepting this. although to my late partner and myself we saw that we were already married we were just missing the piece of paper and the ring.

i know it may seem like a silly thing to ask about what to do, am i just trying to change something i can't? i would be grateful for your thoughts.

Hi Julie,
Mary hear again. I think you should do what your heart is telling you. No one else knows how you feel and at this time it is best to do what you feel is right not what other people feel is right for you. Be strong!
Mary xxx

I shouldn't tell you what to do other than to do what your heart tells you. But I say, go for it, get the rings and wear one. That's what should have happened.So let it happen. Now tell me to mind my own business. You'll never forget him, or the wedding that didn't happen but life will go on. Trust me!
Wishing you the very best from now on.
Love, Derry

I think if you want to you should.He'd be pleased you're wearing his ring and you may feel closer to him.One day you may feel differently,it's unimaginable now but you'll find life moves you on-and you decide to stop wearing it.I know if it was me,I'd be wearing it for us both.
hope you feel better soon,we're all walking through the pain,but atleast we're doing it together.
B.G.

Dear Julie,
At such a time we can only do what feels 'right' for ourselves. If wearing the ring would comfort you, wear it. And every day, if you would like to wear the ring, do so.