I lost my dad on the 27th March 2008 to lung cancer it was all so sudden one minute he was here the next he was gone. He'd just had surgery on his foot in Jan and was staying with me. Six weeks later at his home in Spain with my mum he was taken ill with what they thought was pheumonia?? He was kept in hospital for tests etc and during his stay in hospital he turned 60 and ,my husband and myself flew out to see him i didn;t think he looked that bad but little did i know that when i said goodbye to my dad on that visit my world was about to be shattered. He was finally allowed out of hospital but was on constant oxygen a week later a day before his follow up appt i got a phone call at work to say my dad was back in hospital and i had to get to spain because he was dying??? I can;t remember what i felt disbelief i guess i'd only just seen him this can't be happening!! Luckily my brother and myself managed to get a flight to Spain we arrived at the hospital at half eight my dad died two hours later (never knowing he had lung cancer). I was lucky enough to get to say goodbye to my dad and tell him how much i loved him but i find it so hard to get the image out of my head and how he suffered in those last few hours of his life. He was so brave!! I miss him so much and i still look at his pictures and can;t believe that he's gone, sometimes i feel like i'm on an emotional rollercoster and have no control over my emotions and worry i'm going mad. My heart and thoughts are with all you people who to have lost someone that they love, i hope by sharing with others we can all support one another through this difficult time Hugs Carly X

Hello, i have just done my first posting, my name is hayley, please see my posting, i too lost my dad suddenly. I am thinking of you. I feel like i am going mad also, i think that its very hard to be in normal life after such a huge trauma, and not everyone wants to understand or offer support, so we end up feeling like we are the mad ones, maybe its they who are the mad ones, because they are at least lucky not to be feeling like we do, yet they dont try to understand. I hope that makes sense, im new to this.
Thinking of you and everyone, hayley.