Julie,
About school, I've taken a break for awhile. I don't want to get into every detail of the "why's"...but I've been burning the candle at both ends for most of my life. Before I met my husband I worked between 80-100 hours a week for over 10 years supporting myself. I met my husband while I was recovering from a depression which I got into and it took 6 months to recover with meds.
Got married, moved to NE...had an unblemished work history to get a job here (other than the 6 months from being unable to work due to exhaustion), I had a non stop work history since I was 10. I mentally include delivering newspapers from when I was 10-12...then babysitting for neighbors for my spending money from 12-16...then my 1st job was a waitress at a truckstop til I graduated high school in 1977. Went to college for almost 2 years becoming an X-Ray Tech...and I quit a month before I got my degree...dean's list and all. My internship was at Yale New Haven Hospital. It just wasn't what I wanted. I disappointed my whole family...Geeeesssh.
So I got a job in a local factory...a sub contractor for Pratt and Whitney, did such perfection with my duties assembling probes and harnesses for heating and cooling systems for airplane and helicoptor engines, that my supervisor offered me a heliarc welding oppurtunity...so I took it. I became a certified welder for Pratt & Whitney. I worked for that company for just shy of 20 years averaging 50-60 hrs a week with overtime which was required. I also got an extra full time job after working there 10 years as a material handler at night in a warehouse driving towmoters and moving skids onto the loading docks and in the trucks. so before my burnout...I worked both jobs for over 10 years. I did both jobs to support myself. I didn't want to get a roommate and give up my lifestyle of having my own place. For my health...I should have. when one is young, we feel invinceable...I know I did. Back then I thought...who needs sleep?
Anyway, moved to Nebraska and couldn't find work that paid at least $10 an hour...only $7.25!!! Even with my work history! So the 1st year worked at a sweat shop (no air conditioning!) for a year til i got a temp to perm job working for homeland security. worked both jobs for a year...yes, 2 jobs again! Why? I was too paranoid to give up the sweat shop job until I got the perm status at the other job. thank goodness my DH was understanding of that. And the 1st 3 years we were married, I worked as an extra helper at the main post office too during the holidays.
Why work the 3 jobs?
We needed the money at the time since we were just getting started. Both of my jobs here in NE paid less than one of my jobs back in CT!
Working so hard put me on the brink of exhaustion again. When I was nearing my end of working all of those hours, my step mother died from falling down our basement stairs. My health at that point took a nose dive...8 months later I got lung cancer, 11 months after that I had to have a hysterectomy because of a fibroid becoming the size of a grapefruit. the following year I had to have a bladder operation.
Over a year ago now, I quit the Homeland Security job. the stress working there was becoming unbearable...even for me. People kept leaving, they weren't hiring, so everyone was expected to do more and more and nobody got a raise in over 4 years!
DH suggested I quit and go back to school part time instead of just taking one class at a time which i was doing since 2004.
Anyway, for about 7 months i've been out of school. I've been in total burnout mode, but hope to be back in October. It's been a long hard road.
I fell in our driveway late February and have had a problem with one of my knees ever since. It continues to swell up from time to time. I'll be getting that checked soon. hopefully I won't need another operation.
Well, that's it. I think for many, that was way too much info some want to know about me. Hopefully those just stopped reading and just went to another thread. I didn't expect to share this much.
One last thing...
Why didn't I get a better paying job here? There is a big difference between CT and NE. CT companies mainly look for experience and they will pay $$$ for it. Here in NE they go the cheapest way possible. You should have seen all the jobs advertized here that individual's needed a batchlor's degree and would only get paid $8 an hour!!!
For me, it was like going from the 21st century to the 1900's...in real time!!!
Susan Louise
from Branford CT/ live in Lincoln NE
Zone 5