try this

self control is a fruit of the spirit

so, the first step to developing a FRUIT of the spirit

is to SUBMIT to the spirit that can GIVE YOU THIS FRUIT

in other words, ADMIT your lack of self control and ask the SPIRIT TO CONTROL your emotions, thoughts and actions through SPIRITUAL POWER


all you do is SUBMIT everything

let the SPIRIT DO THE WORK IN YOU

its called "LETTING GO" of your desire to RECEIVE true light

Gods law, LIFE, WILL, LOVE, desire are ONE
meaning? God both wills and does in us of his good pleasure, his desire is his pleasure for his creation, and he works according to that desire, not ours.