my prayers

are definately with her. while it may seem like the "easy" way out to you, the surgery may be the best option for her. there are a lot of programs that work with the candidates for the surgery not only to prepare them psychologically for the surgery and the aftermath, but also can help deal with the underlying issues that caused the issue in the first place. is it possible your family member is doing this not to take the easy way out but sees this as the only option for her that will help not only lose the weight but change the habits and psychoses that feed into them? I'm not saying that permanently changing the digestive tract is ever a good idea (I've been witness to some of the "nicer" side effects through friends who have gone through it) but if she's tried everything else, this may just save her life. before judging please try to see her side of it. to you it may be giving up and taking the easy road, but for her this is a truly life changing decision and isn't one that anyone I've known to do it take lightly or frivolously and if she is seriously considering it then to her this is life or death, not just comfort and self image.

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Bree the HobbityCostumer


Dry: 20/25/27.5" mid-back (33"waist & 43"tailbone)
Wet/Damp: 21.5/26/29 (34.5 & 44.5)



Life is an endless struggle full of frustrations and challenges, but eventually you find a hair stylist you like. ~Author Unknown
"Never shall a young man, Thrown into despair By those great udulating Ramparts at your ear, Love you for yourself alone And not your curly hair."
"But I can get a flat iron And make such tresses there, Tame, or smooth, or stick-straight That young men in despair
May love me for myself alone And not my curly hair."
"I heard an old religious man But yesternight declare That he had found a text to prove That only God, my dear, Could love you for yourself alone And not your curly hair."
-edited by Melinda Lavorante from the 0riginal by W.B. Yeats called "For Anne Gregory"
"Hair style is the final tip-off whether or not a woman really knows herself."
-Hubert de Givenchy, Vogue, July 1985

online journal with some hair stuff: http://www.livejournal.com/users/hobbitycostumer/