It sounds like I have to agree, only, I do know that there are always 2 sides to a story. Maybe he's not happy either. Have you asked him?
I'm not sticking up for him...I think you need to confront him.
I'm still dealing with a man I married 23 years ago and left 7 years ago and is my girls' dad....he still wants to know when I'll get a job and why does he have to send money for food for our daughter and her friend when they come to visit. He can make it sound like I'm on virtual holiday around here. Personally, I say scr*w him...it's my life and I'm doing what I need to. My t asked me if I'd be happier with him and be financially secure or if I was happpier away from him. That was an easy question. He wasn't plain out "mean" but he had a away of making me feel like I was always wrong...and he still tries that one on me.
Funny, he is sending my daughter with a credit card instead of cash. Well, I am wondering how she will buy a coke at the beach with a credit card and how a credit card is going to fit in a parking meter.
They think they are always right...so, let them learn how dumb they can be. I also wonder who is going to take a credit card from a 16 year old child who looks about 13.
You really have to have this soul mate attitude to stick it out these days, I think. And if it is your soul mate then they do come with baggage.
Personally, as lonely as it is, I'd rather be making decisions that are healthy for me rather than have someone else making those decisions on their terms which could hinder my growth and wellness...not to mention my girls.
maybe take a look at those books or if you have a t, talk about it...get him into t with you...do something pro-active for yourself!
Hope
on a soap box this morning
Posted on May 10, 2002, 4:27 AM from IP address 63.208.30.68