Welcome to Healing Our Lives. I can certainly understand your dilemma. I, too, have dated survivors (and am one myself) and in most instances we did at times trigger each others issues. It is important to be respectful of each others issues. But at the same time, walking on eggshells doesn't tend to be very comfortable, and can eventually lead to resentments. I would suggest that you sit down and have a heart to heart (as often as necessary) where you can really truely express your feelings, including your fears (of hurting each other and of being hurt). Talk about particular triggers and see if you can come to a level of being where you can still set and respect boundaries, while at the same time not walking on eggshells. I hope this helps. I do knowthere are books available for survivors and partners. Feel free to look on my webpage at http://www.geocities.com/wellesley/5585 to see if you can find one or two that might help. And by all means, feel free to write here anytime!
Peace,
Terrie
Posted on Aug 29, 2002, 9:36 PM from IP address 64.12.96.200