I'm so sorry to hear that your mom is saying that it is your fault, but I promise it is not your fault. No matter what you say, do, or look like, he is an adult and is responsible for what he does or does not
do. Additionally, if your mom knows about it an blames you, then she is at fault for not protecting you, which is what she should do as a mother. Unfortunately, many people are not healthy enough to be good parents in every way, for whatever reason. Chances are pretty good that your mother is a survivor of sexual abuse from her childhood (though I
obviously don't know this for certain, since I have never met her or anything). She appears to have not learned healthy boundaries and has continued the cycle of abuse by marrying a man who abuses you. I'm very
sorry this has happened, but it is NOT your fault. Feel free to write again anytime.
Terrie
Posted on Mar 5, 2003, 4:24 PM from IP address 65.85.249.194