Just wanted to pop in and say hi. Nothing much is happening here, the kids are on school holidays and while in some ways its great - not having to worry about lunches, uniforms, drop offs and pick ups etc. It is wearing, the constant noise and activity but overall they are being good kids.
Ive just thought of something that I wanted to discuss with you if its ok. Its about people asking how you feel and then if you tell them, really tell them, they jump in with "buck up", "stop crying" and so on.
I feel that I have experienced a lot of this lately. My mum recently complained to me that I don't tell her whats going on with me until its over. This is true in many ways but recently I phoned her when I was very distressed and crying. To her credit she dropped everything and came on over but then said to me "can't you take something to calm your self down, stop crying". This wasn't said in a loving manner but in a more exasperated tone.
It seems that what I'm learning is DONT tell people how you really feel they DONT want to know. Intellectually I know this isn't true but it sure feels like thats how it is.
Have you experienced this and how do you cope with it.
thinking of you and hoping all is well
Terry
Posted on Sep 27, 2000, 9:53 PM from IP address 202.139.59.131