Sorry I took so long to respond...I started to last week and got kicked offline in the middle of my response. Oh, well. Anyway, I can sure relate to people not wanting to hear the true answer when they ask how I am. I've tried to learn to distinguish between those who really care about what I'm feeing and can handle it, and those who do not or can not. Some people just want to hear "fine" cuz when they say "How are you?" they mean it as a greeting and not as a genuine question. Some people mean it genuinely, but cannot handle it if we are having a problem (your mother sounds like one of these). My girlfriend is like that....can't handle it at all when I'm upset, although she loves me dearly. And because she can't handle it, she is not very supportive and wants me to get over it. Some people genuinely want to hear how you are doing and can/will be there for you. These are the people in my life that I talk to when I have a problem. I make it a point to be that kind of person with my friends. And I hope you know that no matter what anyone else tells you (e.g. "get over it", " buck up", etc.) I'm here for you and I honor your feelings.
With love,
Terrie
Posted on Oct 1, 2000, 1:13 PM from IP address 205.188.198.31