I am an Englishman suffering major cultural differences with my PNG meri. Loosing hope for our children unless something changes. Maybe I need to understand better how she thinks in order to find a way through.
As a start I would like to know if there are any reputable sites on the net, or books, that may help me understand some of the common behavioural attitudes of PNG women. Sorry to generalise, clutching at staws now.
Hey mate,
PNG women are sometimes more difficult to handle but not all are like that. It depends on where about in PNG they originate from. So I suggest you be more specific on where she comes from and we'll tell you how women from those areas behave and probably give some hints on how to handle that.
Cultural differences will always occur in mixed marriages and many can be easily overcome by simply having a better understanding and that goes with almost all marriages. Your posting doesn't tell us much. Don't feel afraid about giving a little more detail, you never know one of us might be able to help you.
You sound like a nice guy and maybe by now,a couple of kids down the track,you should have a fair inkling about cultural differences.There are PNg women and PNG women-like anywhere else.Sadly I see a lot of expatriate men who meet and begin to cohabit with women they meet at a disco and without finding out more about the woman concerned,the harsh light of day tells a different story.Domestic violence is a big issue here and very often these Disco Babes are very violent towards the expat man.I have seen this a lot and am saddened as they are lucky to have the chance to grab at a better life than they would normally get with a PNG man they met at a disco
My good man, unless you accept and understand that in our cultural setting there are two types of system. One is Patrineal and Matrineal. The latter means that woman are the dominant figure head of the society. They own the land and just about every thing. This type of society is normally found in the Trobriand Island, Bougainville, East and West new Britain Provinces and New ireland.
Off course there is the mordern concept of a PNG women, some sophisticated through education and a well paying job, and then you have the typical woman who live in the village, with very little to do with the understanding of the town life.
It would be hard to understand your difficulties, after having had children from her, and maybe due to the expectation of your western society, she is feeling a little bit homesick. Why don't you cheer her up by taking a trip with her to PNG so that she ncan at least feel refreshed and rejuvenated. It would'nt hurt, and correct if I am wrong, but I can hint a sadness, a dear longing to see her loved ones. Maybe your wife has lost a dear relative and did not attend the funeral, leading to her current problems with you.
Those are my suggestion, if you desire to try it out.
You really need help do you? Have you tried discussing openly with your wife why she thinks, talks and acts the way she does...
If you both love each other so much you should be able to open up to one another and discuss your differences and why the differences. Be understanding towards each other and help each other to adjust your situation...maybe reach some compromise in a number of issues that are of concern to you both.
I don't think you need this kind of advise BUT for you to come to this site to look for the kind of help you're seeking, you are going to have to explain alot about your wife...eg where she's from, where she grew up etc so as to get PNG womens view
What kind of stupid question is that? Do you think that someone would write a book entitled "How to deal with your PNG meri?" Dork! You could try a marriage counselor you know that may work. You act as though you have a disobedient dog who tears up your furniture or something and you are asking other pet owners for advice! I can't believe that you others even tried to put up an explanation in terms of how the PNG woman acts and how to deal with her! Speak for yourself....
Annette
Sorry if your so damn sensitive about the issue, we are all just trying to help the poor guy regardless of him being a dork or not! (You actually sound like you've got a complex with being a PNGean women). Let it go!
Iam a japanese who is married to a papua new guinean women,and my opinion is, your wife has to follow your culture and, I believe you are not from papua new guinea.
Hi it not easy, marring, some one different,
what kind of behavious, because that can be talk through, because Iam png meri my self I travel alots overseas work with different cultures all walk of life depend on what your, kind of answer you are looking for,
