sunny,
wow, ok so my sons perp lived across the street, the mother was my friend along with my next door neighbor, the father was the bishop of our church and it was the son that abused my son. it was horrible, and yes they sold their home and moved, but left their perp son in the same city as we live in. he has been caught following myself and my son around. horrible crap. and your right it does make your heart flip flop. the grandparents live less than a half mile away and a very afflunt people in the community. i lost many friends and my religion in the process of disclosure... but i have seen my son grow and become strong and a survivor through the process, there is nothing i would have changed, not one thing. those people that stood by the perp through disclosure and refused to listen to my baby will meet their maker one day... their lives and the life of the perp will play before them on judgment day, then they will know what cowards they are...
you hold on tight to your little sweet pea... this does not define her. she will come through this, remember she has gone through the worst of it, she is dealing with it by talking to you and vomiting all the details. your coping, dealing and living with it right now... your grieving and you will grieve for a while... you will have good days, i know at the beginning for us, its all i thought about 24/7, i couldnt sleep, i would be up in the middle of the night on the internet doing research or reading books about abuse..... i didn't take any meds, probably should have, i think i gained 60 lbs in 2 1/2 years, something i will definetly work on soon. LOL, we have come fare, you will too, the tunnel is dark for you right now but you will begin to see light, i promise.
you know my son wouldn't sleep by himself either... his bedroom was in the front of the house, ours was in the back of the house, the perp actually used a screwdriver to pry open my sons screen to get to the window, i honestly think it was a ploy to scar my son, so my baby slept with us for months after disclosure, and even after he started sleeping by himself he slept with a knife under his mattress...
it takes time... hold on and love her and take time for you and hubby and know that sees letting it all out.
hugs
chicaroo
Posted on Nov 5, 2009, 9:05 AM from IP address 71.92.77.66