Relatives bringing dishes to Thanksgiving meal

I know I am oversensitive when it comes to my mil these days, so I am not even going to mention this to dh, but I would like to know if I'm being oversensitive about this. I am making a roast, potatoes and carrots, hot rolls, and desserts tomorrow. The other day mil told dh she was too tired to bring anything and glad I didn't ask. Today she told me that she was bringing ham slices with pineapple, candied sweet potatoes and a jello/fruit dessert.

Am I out of line thinking she should ask what I'd like her to bring, or at the very least not bring a meat main dish when I am doing that?

If I'm wrong, I can take it. Like I said, I know I am not thinking straight when it comes to mil these days.

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