It was FANTASTIC!
I am thankful that dd wasn't bridezilla, instead, she wanted to have a fun party, and didn't care one bit how things were decorated, what the colors were, or about the flowers.
The actual ceremony was family only - but the party began a couple hours later. The kids, dh and I pulled together dinner, that was simple, fun foods that the kids liked, but enjoyed by everyone in attendence. The hits of the evening were the s'mores and glass bottles of grape and orange soda.
We went through the guest list, and estimated who'd show up, and we guessed w/in 4 people - it was nice to see the room full, and everyone visiting, and laughing, and celebrating together.
DD's MIL wanted them to have a wedding cake, although the kids made it clear they didn't have any desire for a cake - but had requested a couple of their favorite cookies, cheesecake, and a chia cream dessert that they enjoy. There were probably not 3 pieces of cake eaten, including the piece they cut and fed one another (which they would have gladly passed on). They weren't interested in keeping the top layer for their first anniversery, which shocked her, but Emily and Matt both said something to the effect of 'We don't have any desire to try to eat a cake a year from now that we've transported 1500 miles in 90 degree weather, and frozen for a year.' They were simply NOT interested in the traditional part of the ceremony/reception as she'd of liked them to have been - but they went along with it to make her happy. (I doubt that she was happy about having 3 layers of cake to get rid of after the reception though.) The oldest dil got a kick out of the fact that they stood up to her and didn't let her insist they take the top layer of the cake to Florida with them, and she REALLY enjoyed the frozen slush punch that Emily wanted. Apparently MIL is fond of fruit punch/7up and sherbert punch, and it meant that all 3 dil's had happily avoided it. In the end, MIL was pleased with the day, and happy for the kids, so I think the lack of tradition was quickly forgiven.