I received a call yesterday that my sister attempted suicide. Thankfully she is physically OK. Her "husband" has been physically and mentally abusing her. They have only been married six months. She is with me now and her children are with their dad (her first husband). We will be moving her out ASAP. Feeling totally overwhelmed.
Praying for you, your sister and her family...I am so sorry this is happening to your family...I am glad she is out of there, and praying more that you can keep her from going back, abusers do such a number on ones head..... kind of explains the distancing that was going on... Just take it at small increments at a time...I understand the overwhelming feeling.
" life isnt about waiting for the storms to pass, its about learning to dance in the rain."
This message has been edited by TrinaOR on Dec 27, 2011 6:54 AM
Hopefully your sister can focus on her kids and how much they need there mother and the fact that someone Doesn't love you when they drive you to the point of suicide. Hopefully she can find strength within herself to get thru this and get away from this abuser. ((Hugs)) to you PB for providing her a place to go. Prayers to both of you for strength to get thru this.
While I was praying for God's will for her life, one word popped unexpectedly into my head: "annulment." I'm not sure I would have thought of it on my own. It's not advice, just something that came to mind unexpectedly.
I have no words of comfort that haven't already been said in this thread. ((( PB Sis )))
As stressful as the situation is and will continue to be, she is now away from the abuser and now she can start to rebuild her life and be a part of yours again. Merry Christmas...and I will have you in my thoughts.
DH said the dame thing to me when I got home from the hospital - "you wanted your family back and you got the whole kit and kaboodle" after he gave the speech about I was a social worker and could handle this....My sister will be OK and has a large circle of support and reconnect with her church family. Her ex husband took her to her house today to collect needed items. We move everything out in 2 days and she and her boys can stay at a summer cottage of a dear friends mother for the time being. I was thinking last night that this really put my marriage in perspective. My DH has been fully supportive and is helping with the move etc.
Thank you all for your kind words and support. It has brought me great comfort over the last few weeks
I hope she will get some counseling. As Trina said, this may explain why she was distancing herself from you. Many times abusers "fuel the fire" between their spouse and family members so they will not be close enough to know what is going on. I hope for her sake she divorces him. I know you are having a hard time right now yourself. Hopefully you will get the support you need to help her through this time.
It's times like this, when I wish we all lived in the same community, so we could be there physically to support one another. Since we aren't, I hope we can be of support emotionally, and know we will be praying for you and for your sister. Hugs