Again I am putting these two together because their behaviors are so similar. Do they bounce off eachother?
Observational Skills: They are aware of everything I bring in the house, I can't keep anything a surprise. They ask tons of questions about things they observe-- often I can't make a global explanation at all because they are obsessed with nuances.
No boundaries--oh boy. They swim too far out into the ocean, and ignore me when I scream for them to come closer. They can't seem to just "come along" when we go places, each is on his own agenda, running to see what he wants to see without concern for where the rest of the family is. We cannot go into a crowd or anywhere that they might get separated from me. Just walking down the street is enough stress for me to avoid unless necessary.
No boundaries for others--oh boy oh boy. The worst for me. They are always in my face, my physical space. They interrupt constantly (especially Mark), and nag insistently at me until I respond. If I ignore this they get louder and louder, hang on me,tap me insistently, or whatever. I cannot stand this. If I turn to "send them off" they argue, or continue to repeat their agenda. They manage to turn me away from my original focus one way or another! They do this to their teacher, too. If I am doing something --say, fooling on the piano (recently) they butt in and take over, banging the keys, asking questions, etc.. I don't even attempt many things I am longing to do for myself (even as simple as take a bath). They often want me to do impossible things, "GO!" when sitting at a red light with a car in front of me, even if they know I can't they direct a lot of loud grief or anger at me for not having the physical world conform to their wishes, or they want me to go speeding down the highway at breakneck speed, t'heck with highway patrol, stuff like this.
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