Part of the problem with this subject is that people think if a child is social he or she must obviously be an extrovert...NOT SO.
Your child may, in fact, be a "Social Introvert."
Introverts get their energy by being alone or with one or two special people. They prefer to interact with the world on the inside by reflecting on their thoughts and ideas before sharing them with others on the outside. They REFRESH themselves by spending time alone. If they get it, they'll play well with other kids and be more cooperative. If they don't get it they'll get surly and nasty.
So, the greatest factor here is time to REFRESH and RECHARGE...does your child need quiet time, or solitude in order to feel good in his or her skin?
Extroverts draw their energy from others. They prefer to engage the world around them outside of their bodies by talking with people, sharing ideas and experiences. If they don't have the opportunity to talk, they get crabby and demanding because they are running out of steam. If they are allowed to RECHARGE by being with other people they are fine.
Take a second look at your child - is her REALLY an intorvert? Is she REALLY an extrovert?
What are you and how does that effect your child?
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