how do you keep a new year resolution, stopping smoking and chewing is a good one. Any tips?

Hello anon and All ,
Is it your habit to smoke , chew ,drink or become lazy??

some wantoks would say " oh its my mother nature to be this way part - part of my life "WRONG! It is not our nature to be smoking,chewing , drinking , be lazy.Our habits then create our nature. In other words, the actions we repeatedly do become habits, which then form our character, which, in turn, shapes our future. "We first make our habits, and then our habits make us"

We got to have a strong Will power to govorn our lifes - things doesnt work unlesss we put it into action.


1.List the reasons why you want to stop a bad habit or start a good one. For example, why do you want to stop smoking, stop procrastinating, or start working out? Write as many reasons as you can think of. This step helps eliminate the first mistake that is often made, which is to focus on what we don't want rather than what we do want.

2. Step 2 is an essential step that is seldom carried out by those who want to change. List all the reasons why you continue in the bad habit. For example, if you smoke, why do you do so?

3.Reasons may include: it 'relaxes'me, makes me feel like one of the group, gives me something to do with my fingers, makes me feel more confident, makes me look attractive, and so forth.

4.Find the needs that your habit is trying to fulfill. The purpose of Step 2 was to help you discover these hidden needs. This step is almost never followed by those wanting to change and is an important step. So, in the example of the smoker, the needs may be to feel confident, be at ease, be accepted, and look attractive.

5.Do an analysis. Ask yourself how effectively your bad habit is fulfilling your needs. An analysis of our behaviour will reveal that our bad habits are counterproductive. Instead of helping us, they prevent us from satisfying our needs. Again, using the smoker as an example, rather than making him look macho, cigarettes make him look like a weakling in need of oral gratification. And how can he feel confident when he depends on cigarettes to mask his insecurity?

6.List what you can do to fulfill your needs in a positive manner. For example, our smoker friend may decide he can gain the confidence he is looking for by working out, taking adult education classes, or learning how to dance. All these activities can bring about genuine confidence, which gradually ends his need for phony symbols, such as cigarettes.

7.Just as professional athletes are trained to visualize their success before they act, take several brief 'visualization breaks' throughout the day. That is, pause and mentally see yourself carrying out the actions you decided on in Step 5. So, if you decided to replace the bad habit of smoking with the good habit of working out, use your imagination to see yourself growing slimmer and fit. Feel the confidence well up in you as you grow more and more attractive. Relish in the pleasure of knowing you are replacing a habit that destroys health with one that builds it.

8.Begin to take the action you are visualizing. If you decided to go to the gym, start going. Work out regularly. As you do so, a new habit is formed, and soon you will take pleasure in your workouts and wonder how you ever got along without them.



remember - We have the power to control our lifes - control our will - control our habits .You can do it - jst be Positive all day way - you'll get there.

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