I do not know if I am making any sense at all here but I would like to know if it is that easy for a man who is happily married to become unfaithful. Any experience and thoughts will be greatly appreciated.

As a happily married man, It would be very difficult for me to do that. I am happy so I don't see any reason why.

Thank you, saudena. I knew the answer before I even put this up. In my opinion, I still think some happily married man are likely to become unfaithful because of other factors , these are just my thoughts but I would like to know this from a man's point of view.

Happily married people should not be unfaithful! There is always a factor. Sometimes the lady is a problem, sometimes its a spur of the moment, sometimes the man is a problem, probably drinks too much. What ever the case, we should all understand that life is not perfect, sometimes you loss more then what you anticipate to start with. The wife plays a big role in unfaithfulness of man, if meri maus, the husband just doesn't know what to do and abide by the womens wishes, he just shuts up. Once that happen, men can seek comfort elsewhere. It's a 2way situation. Ol meri bikhet, ol man tu bikhet. Yupla yet skelim!

hmmmm...guys, read the post over and then you will understand and answer accordingly.

From a woman's point of view, I think the man becoming unfaithful was the result of a dare from a friend. What started as a game resulted in an actual affair. He walked over the boundary and thought that the wife will not know since she is thousands of miles away. Looks like the wife found out later(what goes around comes around) so before you happily married man even think about playing any immature games like that. think twice). I hope I am making sense here.

Well my little 2 cents is that marriage is a privilege and a gift, and is not about getting under the skin of our partners because we have the unique ability to do so, or since we have the power to do so because we know them inside out. It's about refraining from using that special position we have in the heart of our partners to hurt our partner. If one does wrong, does it justify us fighting fire with fire? So the question is, why do happily married men get into the quagmire of unfaithfulnesses? Like the initial poster said, there are many factors. If a partner becomes unfaithful whilst under the same roof, then it initially means it wasn't a happy marriage at the start. Each partner has to look deep within why they are falling or "moving" away from each other. If a partner becomes unfaithful while away on a business trip or study trip, I guess there are various other factors associated with that. Marriage separated by distance, is not a happy one in my books. Either the man must become a workaholic to avoid the temptations of loneliness and the warmth and company of a lady or indulge in activities with friends to free the mind from missing a loved one. Activities with friends may lead to something unfortunate.

I really don't know where the answer is why happily married men become unfaithful, but for me issues I consider small things are the factor that may lead to big complication. So my advice to all men is like they say, for a want of a nail.... the kingdom was lost. On a spiritual note, devil looks for the nails, the small things, so he can take the kingdom from us, don't give him that satisfactions...but as mere men, we lost sight, it matters how we forgive and continue.

em nau ,
futher more on that -Marriage is a Convenant made between man and woman to become Husband and Wife.

Its not a Contract which will expired,its a Convenant-meaning that its a agreement that will stay there forever still Dead separate.

Most ppl mis-understand the concepts of marriage - they take it as a contract signed to live together.Thats where they playup and play games on each other.

Marriage is a CONVENANT made by man and sworn infront of eyes of the ppl and God The Almighty...

Its very interesting!!

very true indeed. Some people seem to have forgotten that it is a covenant and do the complete opposite. It can be very stressing and frustrating too for both parties involved.

Upon saying that what do you all think about the traditional marriages, the marriages that happen because a couple eloped and a marriage in church, should we say that marriage in church is binded by a covenant and not the other two?

Your views

very interesting Rishika !!
yes would luv to see your views on wot Rishika has mentioned.

Ol naispla ya. Thank you tumas long olgeta reply.

Marriage is a covenant and it should not be broken but I have also realised that we all are mere mortals and bound to make mistakes but it does not mean that once we are forgiven we can go on repeating our mistakes. It only hurts our other half and widens tha gap and not long after we find ourselves drifting apart and gives the devil more ground to try destroy the good thing we have in marriage.

So a piece of advice to you all men that have a woman who worship the ground you walk on, do not take them for granted.