Ladies,
I got this article through e-mail some time ago and decided to put it here so you all can learn too. Personally, I always believed that we can be very successful in our profession, whatever it may be but at the end of the day we are still sombody's wife, mother, etc etc. We will get where we want to be and accomplish our dreams if we just submit(it is our way of showing our men we love them) so the men will love us in return. It is better to have the love and support of a man than struggling with him. God commanded women to submit to their husbands and men to love their wives(1 PETER 3). When you have the love and support of your husband, you can accomplish anything. It is not easy learning how to submit but there is no other way. We all have to pay the price. As for respect, it comes naturally after submission.

Looks like I will have to swallow my pride in order to willingly submit and respect the man when the time comes.

Happy Reading.

la_shanka



10 Steps Towards Respecting Your Husband (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It)
by Cyndie Hamley



With downcast eyes, Kathryn confided, “I have a hard time respecting my husband. I want to be obedient to God’s command, but I don’t want to be dishonest to my feelings.”

God doesn’t command a wife to feel respectful toward her husband. She is to be respectful. Her responsibility is to obey God; not her feelings.

A wise woman once told me, “If you want a truly fine husband, respect him at the level at which you want him to reach. A man will usually not rise above the level at which his wife respects him.” This is a general principle, not a hard and fast rule because God does not put accountability or responsibility for a man’s character on his wife. Nevertheless, strong evidence indicates a woman holds great power to make or break a man. In his book His Needs, Her Needs, Willard Harley amends the saying “Behind every great man is a great woman” to “Behind every great man is an admiring wife.”

Something in a man needs the respect of his wife. He thrives and grows toward godliness when his need is fulfilled. This explains why God emphatically says, “The wife must see to it that she respects her husband” (Ephesians 5:33 NASB).

10 Steps Towards Respecting Your Husband
1. Pray for him daily and trust God to answer your requests.
· Pray for his well-being, wisdom, protection, blessings, guidance, knowledge, spiritual maturity, success, purity, strength in temptation, etc.
· Look for God’s answers to your prayers.
· Thank God for working in your family.
· Thank God for your husband.
· Pray for your attitude.
2. Remember that God has put your husband in a position of leadership, and He will lead you through your husband.
3. Make a list of your husband’s qualities that you appreciate. Review and add to your list regularly.
4. Tell your husband what you appreciate about him. Tell others what you appreciate about him.
5. Don’t criticize your husband to others – especially your children.
6. Look for the positive side of things that you may find irritating. If you find it boring when he spends time telling you about his bad day, remember that at least he is talking to you, spending time with you, sharing his concerns with you, bringing you into his confidence, and giving you the chance to be an encourager and helper.
7. Respond to his loving advances with enthusiasm.
8. If you are concerned about a decision your husband has made, ask him the following:
· “I’m confused about _________. Can you explain it to me?”
· “Can we talk about _____? I feel uncomfortable about ______.”
Don’t ask: “WHY in the world would you do it that way?” or ask “Why?” in any way that implies you think he is foolish.
9. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts about your husband, stop and choose to think of something else – especially things from your positive quality list.
10. Respect his likes and dislikes. If he likes a particular food, make a point of serving that regularly. If he hates the color purple, don’t wear purple in his presence. If he likes you to wear perfume, do it.
Remember, God is working on you and your husband. You can both learn from your failures as well as your successes. Give God the freedom to teach your husband through failure. In the same way, give God the freedom to teach you to trust Him through your husband’s failure.

la shanka susa, thanks for sharing the tips. reading it has made me realize how selfish i was towards my family, esp my husband. i had to sacrifise my career for my husbands studies overseas, and blamed him most times for being at home doing nothing apart from the chaos and motherhood. guess i was not used to being at home.
at least it has reminded me of my duties as a wife.

thanks again,
grauch.

Why should a "woman" have to submit to a husband.

I attending a wedding some years ago, the priest used the word "submit" at least 40 times throught the ceremony, directed to the women. I could of strangled him, not once did he ask the man to submit to the women.

Better to create "equality" in a marriage rather than a women continually submit through out her marriage.

Having to submit constantly does nothing more than build up resentment.

Love is "unconditional" and it should be "unconditional"

susa,
It is biblical, we have to do it. Even in the other religions, the woman has to be under her husband. It will be disrespectful if the opposite happens.
In other words, you cannot expect something to be given to you if you do not know how to give it back.

As for LOVE being unconditional, that is according to God's standards. We have shortfalls and we do not have the ability to love unconditionally as God does but we can get somewhere closer to that unconditional love if we try our best.