Sad news about a school colleague (still birth mentioned)

My mind won't stop thinking about an school colleague who still lives in the town where I grew up. Two years ago she lost a pregnancy at about 8 months. One day all was ok then suddenly there was no heartbeat . It was her first and she was in my class at school so she was about 40yrs old at the time.

Now she has just lost her second pregnancy also about 8 months. I am not really close to her now so I don't know what happened but I heard a couple of weeks ago that her baby was not going to survive and then I heard today that she lost it two days ago. I think she had to go through induced labour. She would now be 42yrs maybe 43yrs I guess. There was also a family tragedy last month and she would have been grieving the loss of one of her siblings and now this comes so soon after.

I just can't think how someone could cope with such grief. My eyes swell up with tears when I think of this lovely girl and this terrible burden she has to bear. She is such a beautiful lady and always so pleasant with only good things to say about everyone. I had two early mc's and felt destroyed after the second. I simply cannot imagine the grief of two losses in such circumstances, especially to someone of AMA.

Also I can't think what could have happened to cause this. I am told that both her mother and sister lost their first pregnancies quite late and so I would have thought given the history that it is something they could have watched for, treated or whatever. Surely in this day of advanced medicine there is something that could have, should have been done. I am angry without knowing the full details but I just don't think it is fair that anyone be put through this. I want to reach out to her but feel that I cannot. This must be such a private grief and I can't imagine what I could say or do that would be appropriate and good in such circumstances.