I was so sad and sorry to read about your friend. How terrible to lose two babies so far into a pregnancy. A few months ago a friend of ours lost twins at 20 weeks. I wrote her a beautiful card about how she will always remember her time with them and how she will be reunited with them one day in Heaven. This is my personal belief but I know if it is something you believe in as well that it will help her.
When we lost Jaiden a complete stranger sent me a dozen white roses. She had lost both o her young children just 3 days before Jaiden died. They died suddenly in a terrible accident. She had been following Jaiden's story before her own loss and she felt she needed to reach out the me. Her card said that Kaley and Shane (her children) were waiting at the gates to greet Jaiden. It brought me a great deal of comfort and I beleive to this day that they are all together. Ironically, we ended up going through a small closed group session of Compassionate Friends with Kaley and Shane's parents and we are still in contact now (17 months later).
When our friends lost the twins I told them the same thing- that Jaiden was waiting for them and taking care of them now. She simply adored babies and I know it is true.
So yes acknowledging the babies lives and the fact that they have moved on, but are not gone forever from their Mom would be helpful imho. It is a terrible burden that will be with her all her days on earth. Being able to talk about her baby/babies is really important. I wish you gentle peace and will be thinking about this family....
XO~Holleigh
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