You miss the point.

This is a support group. We are here to provide information to each other and cheer each other on, not judge each other's personal and financial decisions. I will explain myself with regards to DP - BUT I SHOULD NOT HAVE TO. I can feel the stress in my body right now. NOT good.

DP DID provide sperm for 9 cycles. It turns out his sperm is not useful and he is not invested in having a child. He pays for plenty of things for me, food, and vacations, etc. I AM comfortable with it, and that is all that matters. I, WITH my therapist have concluded that it is better for me to have him around, and he is supportive enough to me, that it is worth it TO ME, to keep him around. We have been through a lot together and there are other complicating factors. VERY. It is a VERY complicated situation. I have CHOSEN to use DS because it is right for me. He does what is right for him, and the only way the two of us can stay together and not resent each other, is to continue to do what is right for our OWN separate lives. If we stay together through it, we will both know, we did what's right for ourselves and still managed to stay together. It works for us, right now. Thanks for your respect of my situation in advance and not judging.