need a pep talk - pregnant co-worker is getting me down (x-post)

So I was doing well. It was about 3 weeks after she told me that she told everyone at the office. That was last week and it was all pregnancy talk all the time....but it was the first week. I actually took comfort that a male co-worker who has had a couple of failed IVF's pulled me aside and asked how I was doing. He is having a really hard time with it and commented that when our male co-workers have had babies, there wasn't this constant talk in the halls, at lunch, etc. I said, well, it is the big announce week and to be expected. I was holding up well until she pulled me aside tonight as I was trying to leave early and asked how I was doing and she hoped I was ok. The look of pity on her face just really depressed me. She said she wanted to know if playing an office guessing game of the babies sex and date of birth would be too hard on me...that she wanted to send out an e-mail tonight. She is only 16 weeks.....I wasn't expecting the due date game until the last month of the pregnancy! I said that is cool, maybe just not a huge pink and blue display in the lunchroom. Her smile dropped and she said "Well, I can't help it if people put one up". Ugh. Basically I said don't edit your behavior because of me, it is your pregnancy to be enjoyed.

After I left I just felt like crap. Her pitying looks are making me feel worse, and then she is just going to do what she wants anyway...so why bother asking?! I must rise above, but it is gonna be a long 6 months ahead if the group games about the due date are already ramping up this early!!!

xoxo, Tracy