Thanks to everyone (DE ment)

For all of your kind and thoughtful responses. Truly a wonderful and supportive group of kindred spirits. It's been a tough few days and I've been going back and forward and really all over the place in my head and am leaning towards cycling again with OE. We have one more cycle on insurance so maybe we should go out with a bang. I'm also considering starting the DE process in parallel, just to get educated and prepared should we decide to go that route. My sister had a baby with OE at 39 after 24 IUIs (yes, 24) with donor sperm (male factor). She believes strongly that raising a child makes it yours, not the genetics. Bless her. I hope I can be as strong...