Because it did come across that way when you made it personal. Again, if you have a problem with me, just post with your name and I will gladly apologize if I have done anything to offend you.
If you look at the over 40 timeline there have been lots of IVF successes. Also, there are exciting new developments in IVF technology including:
--supplements that improve egg quality
--CGH and ways to test the chromosomal integrity
--low, mini, and natural IVF and blast banking
--improved freezing methods (vitrification)
--ICSI ensuring fertilization
--general lab improvement
--more REs knowing and specializing in how to help this population
I think that this is really exciting and is the wave of the future for the 40+ crowd. It won't help everyone, of course, but it could help a fair number.
If someone wants to spend the money and try, I hate to see her talked out of doing so. Sure, she should know that the odds aren't great in one cycle, but over twelve cycles they should be considerably better. It took me FIVE attempts at IVF and I had to consult at four different REs. Some of this IS a matter of persistence (for some, not all, of course). Had people here not encouraged and helped me (including the woman from this board who helped me find me last RE) I don't know what would have happened. Yeah, yeah, yeah, I know that I was 39 and that isn't 45, but 39 is not so different from 40 or even 41. I am going to stay on here encouraging people to go for it if that is what is in their hearts. If they choose another path I fully support that too. I just want happiness and peace for everyone here.
Also, please look at my post up above explaining MIR's calculation and how she got it. If you still disagree with her math please share.